It’s too late to apologize [12]Comments on: http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/ Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Wed, 15 Feb 2012 01:44:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: kapgar http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-519 kapgar Mon, 17 Dec 2007 05:17:17 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-519 I tend to just turn around and walk away. Ignoring someone can be more effective than actually saying something. Makes them start to think about what they've done. I tend to just turn around and walk away. Ignoring someone can be more effective than actually saying something. Makes them start to think about what they’ve done.

]]> By: kilax http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-433 kilax Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:43:37 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-433 Thank you all for your responses. I was worried I wouldn't get any - that this post was so vague and negative that no one would be able to relate and just tell me to quit holding a grudge. Unfortunately, that youo <i>can</i> relate probably means that a lot of you have been in the same situation. I appreciate your advice and ideas for responses. I hope that when the moment comes, I do not end up saying something nasty (a la Dave2 ;) ) ... but it will be hard not to. It is unbelievable how inconsiderate and rude and hurtful people can be. Oh well! Thank you all for your responses. I was worried I wouldn’t get any – that this post was so vague and negative that no one would be able to relate and just tell me to quit holding a grudge. Unfortunately, that youo can relate probably means that a lot of you have been in the same situation.

I appreciate your advice and ideas for responses. I hope that when the moment comes, I do not end up saying something nasty (a la Dave2 ;) ) … but it will be hard not to. It is unbelievable how inconsiderate and rude and hurtful people can be.

Oh well!

]]> By: suze http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-432 suze Tue, 11 Dec 2007 01:43:54 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-432 i agree with what everyone is saying above... "Thanks for the apology. I'm still hurt and not ready to forgive you. Please respect that I still have time." That's the mature response. Mine is usually more like Dave2's though... ;) i agree with what everyone is saying above…

“Thanks for the apology. I’m still hurt and not ready to forgive you. Please respect that I still have time.” That’s the mature response.

Mine is usually more like Dave2′s though… ;)

]]> By: Robin http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-431 Robin Tue, 11 Dec 2007 01:22:53 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-431 Saying you are sorry and actually being sorry are two different things. I think too many people just toss “I'm sorry” out there thinking they will get an automatic pass with out actually feeling any regret at all. Saying you are sorry and actually being sorry are two different things. I think too many people just toss “I’m sorry” out there thinking they will get an automatic pass with out actually feeling any regret at all.

]]> By: Hilly http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-430 Hilly Tue, 11 Dec 2007 00:12:57 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-430 I need to be a sheep here...I too have told people that I appreciate them taking the time to apologize but that I need more time to figure out if I even can forgive them. I need to be a sheep here…I too have told people that I appreciate them taking the time to apologize but that I need more time to figure out if I even can forgive them.

]]> By: Gary LaPointe http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-427 Gary LaPointe Mon, 10 Dec 2007 23:28:20 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-427 I've told people that I'm not ready to talk about it (but that I'll probably forgive them later). This is assuming that later I do think that I will. If I never plan to, that's another story. In that case I gotta assume I wouldn't even be in the same room as them :) I’ve told people that I’m not ready to talk about it (but that I’ll probably forgive them later). This is assuming that later I do think that I will.

If I never plan to, that’s another story. In that case I gotta assume I wouldn’t even be in the same room as them :)

]]> By: sizzle http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-426 sizzle Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:52:39 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-426 just because one person is ready to apologize doesn't mean the other person is ready to hear it/accept it. you have to take care of you. besides, i think all too often people apologize just to "get it over with" so everyone can "move on" when it's b.s. i hope you find peace on this, for yourself. just because one person is ready to apologize doesn’t mean the other person is ready to hear it/accept it. you have to take care of you. besides, i think all too often people apologize just to “get it over with” so everyone can “move on” when it’s b.s.

i hope you find peace on this, for yourself.

]]> By: Dave2 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-425 Dave2 Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:48:52 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-425 Kyra has it right... I've used that exact same saying myself. Of course, if the incident is REALLY offensive, you can always say "shove your apology up your ass," which works good too! Kyra has it right… I’ve used that exact same saying myself.

Of course, if the incident is REALLY offensive, you can always say “shove your apology up your ass,” which works good too!

]]> By: CourtneyInControl http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-423 CourtneyInControl Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:29:06 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-423 i must agree with Kyra and Gina, "the thank you for your apology"... and a good call on the fact that an apology does not require forgiveness!! i must agree with Kyra and Gina, “the thank you for your apology”… and a good call on the fact that an apology does not require forgiveness!!

]]> By: Gina (Mannyed) http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-419 Gina (Mannyed) Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:14:43 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2007/12/10/its-too-late-to-apologize/#comment-419 Yea Kyra is so right. "Thank you for your apology" Nuff said. Yea Kyra is so right. “Thank you for your apology” Nuff said.

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