1/2 [8]Comments on: http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/ Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 21:14:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: suze http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1677 suze Wed, 12 Mar 2008 11:33:02 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1677 the routine of wake up, work, come home, make dinner, try to eek out some quality time with each other, maintain the home, maintain some friendships, etc, etc, etc really does take up more time than one imagines. Add to that the fact that most jobs are draining and leave you exhausted makes it hard to pull out of those routines to do anything else. I had to sign up for classes to kick my butt in gear to get me focusing on hobbies as well as the daily grind... I hope you find what works for you!!! the routine of wake up, work, come home, make dinner, try to eek out some quality time with each other, maintain the home, maintain some friendships, etc, etc, etc really does take up more time than one imagines. Add to that the fact that most jobs are draining and leave you exhausted makes it hard to pull out of those routines to do anything else. I had to sign up for classes to kick my butt in gear to get me focusing on hobbies as well as the daily grind…

I hope you find what works for you!!!

]]> By: kilax http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1673 kilax Sun, 09 Mar 2008 23:43:41 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1673 Gina (Mannyed) - I would rather take a nap too. It seems that is what I do every weekend! Kyra - Ha ha ha. I am not that good at math ;) But it is funny how there are all this small little changes that I wasn't expecting! CourtneyInControl - I have my goals set, but wanting to relax on the weekend just kills them! Oops! claire - I think that is a great idea! Maybe I could focus on reading ONE chapter of the study book each night! Then I would at least be done in 30 days or so (well, if it has 30 chapters!). E - I have always been resistant about not letting work define me - but only in my mind. It seems that when you are dedicated and care about what you do, it is hard not to become that way :( SJ - Draining and exhausted - exactly how I feel. I just can't believe I am going to feel this way for at least 40 more years of my life! Yikes! I better figure out something NOW! Gina (Mannyed) – I would rather take a nap too. It seems that is what I do every weekend!

Kyra – Ha ha ha. I am not that good at math ;) But it is funny how there are all this small little changes that I wasn’t expecting!

CourtneyInControl – I have my goals set, but wanting to relax on the weekend just kills them! Oops!

claire – I think that is a great idea! Maybe I could focus on reading ONE chapter of the study book each night! Then I would at least be done in 30 days or so (well, if it has 30 chapters!).

E – I have always been resistant about not letting work define me – but only in my mind. It seems that when you are dedicated and care about what you do, it is hard not to become that way :(

SJ – Draining and exhausted – exactly how I feel. I just can’t believe I am going to feel this way for at least 40 more years of my life! Yikes! I better figure out something NOW!

]]> By: SJ http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1670 SJ Fri, 07 Mar 2008 21:24:05 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1670 I blame working. The times in my life when I've been unemployed for some reason are the times when I felt like I could really get things accomplished on a personal level. That's when I've been my most creative. When I have to be at work for nine hours every day, I'm too exhausted and brain-dead by the time I get home to want to do anything. I'm lucky if I can figure out how to operate the remote control! I love my job, and am so grateful for it, but it sure is draining. And all those days flow past while I stare at a computer screen with my back to the world. I blame working. The times in my life when I’ve been unemployed for some reason are the times when I felt like I could really get things accomplished on a personal level. That’s when I’ve been my most creative. When I have to be at work for nine hours every day, I’m too exhausted and brain-dead by the time I get home to want to do anything. I’m lucky if I can figure out how to operate the remote control!

I love my job, and am so grateful for it, but it sure is draining. And all those days flow past while I stare at a computer screen with my back to the world.

]]> By: E http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1668 E Fri, 07 Mar 2008 04:59:59 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1668 I'm not married, and I can certainly relate to the "blur" part! I can't believe I've been at my current job for almost 6 months already. And in that time, I feel like people I care about and things I like to do have been slowly slipping-away from me; that work has started consuming my life, and I find it more disturbing than I ever imagined 10, 5, 3, even just 2 years ago. It makes me sad, as D has probably mentioned at some point... :( I suppose the problem relates to the old bar psychology of personal greetings: does the other person define who they are by what they do for a living, or do they define who they are by other elements of their life (which may only just happen to relate to their work in some way)?...... Like most white-collar professionals, I would guess, I've probably fallen in the former camp more than I care to admit. I’m not married, and I can certainly relate to the “blur” part! I can’t believe I’ve been at my current job for almost 6 months already. And in that time, I feel like people I care about and things I like to do have been slowly slipping-away from me; that work has started consuming my life, and I find it more disturbing than I ever imagined 10, 5, 3, even just 2 years ago.

It makes me sad, as D has probably mentioned at some point… :( I suppose the problem relates to the old bar psychology of personal greetings: does the other person define who they are by what they do for a living, or do they define who they are by other elements of their life (which may only just happen to relate to their work in some way)?…… Like most white-collar professionals, I would guess, I’ve probably fallen in the former camp more than I care to admit.

]]> By: claire http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1666 claire Thu, 06 Mar 2008 21:31:55 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1666 Maybe the key is to break your larger goals into smaller, manageable pieces. So you have 2 exams to study for... do you have all the books/study guides you need? Start by getting what you need together. Then if possible, break the tests into separate sections you can work on. Make a list of smaller tasks and deadlines to keep you accountable and so you can see your progress. Maybe try to set aside a small chunk of time each day (or certain days of the week) to work on a few questions, read a section of info, or make flash cards. If you have somewhere you can set up and leave your stuff, you'll be able to devote spare time to it more easily. That's how I'd probably try to tackle it anyway. Now if I could just figure out what I should be focusing on... 'cuz damn, it's already March! Maybe the key is to break your larger goals into smaller, manageable pieces. So you have 2 exams to study for… do you have all the books/study guides you need? Start by getting what you need together. Then if possible, break the tests into separate sections you can work on.

Make a list of smaller tasks and deadlines to keep you accountable and so you can see your progress. Maybe try to set aside a small chunk of time each day (or certain days of the week) to work on a few questions, read a section of info, or make flash cards. If you have somewhere you can set up and leave your stuff, you’ll be able to devote spare time to it more easily.

That’s how I’d probably try to tackle it anyway. Now if I could just figure out what I should be focusing on… ‘cuz damn, it’s already March!

]]> By: CourtneyInControl http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1665 CourtneyInControl Thu, 06 Mar 2008 15:10:47 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1665 like Mannyed said, i have no words of wisdom either... i know what you mean about not wanting to live life in a blur... somehow time just flies by... i want to set a goal too!!! we can do this!! like Mannyed said, i have no words of wisdom either… i know what you mean about not wanting to live life in a blur… somehow time just flies by… i want to set a goal too!!! we can do this!!

]]> By: Kyra http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1664 Kyra Thu, 06 Mar 2008 15:04:31 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1664 Well, from and old married broad (13 yrs this September) I do have a few words to pass a long. The first is that there is such a thing as "Married Time", and it moves contrary to the normal time line. You cannot measure your life in married time because it is sometimes 1 day = 24 hours x 15 angst - 2 apology + 16 mulling, -2225 chores and expectations. Sometimes it is 1 day = 24 hours - 16 sleeping (no idea why) x 14 bliss - 1628 lost to the ether + 1. When you factor in the normal life time line, basically it's 1 day = 24 hours + 16 for all the other stuff you are expected to do - 120 for what is actually possible. So really, you are just working in reverse, and soon you'll only be expected to accomplish what you did in first grade (I think that is why so many people take scheduled naps as they get older.) You life will come as it is able. After a big event like getting married, things really DO change in small ways that you don't necessarily notice, but cause major shifts overall. It's now that you notice where you are that you can guide in another direction - and if you think about it, it's RIGHT on schedule. Well, from and old married broad (13 yrs this September) I do have a few words to pass a long. The first is that there is such a thing as “Married Time”, and it moves contrary to the normal time line. You cannot measure your life in married time because it is sometimes 1 day = 24 hours x 15 angst – 2 apology + 16 mulling, -2225 chores and expectations. Sometimes it is 1 day = 24 hours – 16 sleeping (no idea why) x 14 bliss – 1628 lost to the ether + 1.

When you factor in the normal life time line, basically it’s 1 day = 24 hours + 16 for all the other stuff you are expected to do – 120 for what is actually possible. So really, you are just working in reverse, and soon you’ll only be expected to accomplish what you did in first grade (I think that is why so many people take scheduled naps as they get older.)

You life will come as it is able. After a big event like getting married, things really DO change in small ways that you don’t necessarily notice, but cause major shifts overall. It’s now that you notice where you are that you can guide in another direction – and if you think about it, it’s RIGHT on schedule.

]]> By: Gina (Mannyed) http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1663 Gina (Mannyed) Thu, 06 Mar 2008 14:27:51 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/03/06/12/#comment-1663 I have no words of wisdom. I'm still hashing out my thesis. But maybe we can set some goals for ourselves for '08! Let's get these important things out of the way and make them start working for us! Um...think I'll go take a nap now. I have no words of wisdom. I’m still hashing out my thesis. But maybe we can set some goals for ourselves for ’08! Let’s get these important things out of the way and make them start working for us! Um…think I’ll go take a nap now.

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