Comments on: Territorial http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/ Enthusiasm is contagious; start an epidemic. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 20:31:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: kilax http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2824 kilax Thu, 29 May 2008 03:44:19 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2824 javaqueen14 - Hee hee hee! I get your point! DON'T DO IT!!! You will have to tell me the story one time of what happened to you... or is this related to your experience of working with family and friends of the boss? Nilsa - That would totally weird me out. I think it's the fact of seeing someone you used to party with acting all professional (for me anyway). But it could be totally fun! javaqueen14 – Hee hee hee! I get your point! DON’T DO IT!!! You will have to tell me the story one time of what happened to you… or is this related to your experience of working with family and friends of the boss?

Nilsa – That would totally weird me out. I think it’s the fact of seeing someone you used to party with acting all professional (for me anyway). But it could be totally fun!

]]> By: Nilsa http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2820 Nilsa Wed, 28 May 2008 19:49:02 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2820 You know what's weird? Walking into a conference room at work to meet the guy who works for your sister company ... and realizing he was a fraternity brother of the guy who used to give you rides home in college. That was weird. But, weird turned into delightful. We eventually worked together and became very good friends. It's a small world out there and you just never know where great colleagues or friends are lurking! You know what’s weird? Walking into a conference room at work to meet the guy who works for your sister company … and realizing he was a fraternity brother of the guy who used to give you rides home in college. That was weird. But, weird turned into delightful. We eventually worked together and became very good friends. It’s a small world out there and you just never know where great colleagues or friends are lurking!

]]> By: javaqueen14 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2811 javaqueen14 Wed, 28 May 2008 07:38:06 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2811 I've learned, never recommend. I take great pride; when you refer someone and they suck, you feel like somehow it's your fault.... Work is hard enough, why add that hassle? It might be fine, and it might not.... but I wouldn't refer anyone to my work place and take that chance again. It's not territorial. It's what you do for a living, it's where you spend the majority of your time..... It's your bread and butter. I know you already said to have this person send their resume but *there are still ways around that. DON'T DO IT! *Can you tell I've been burned? Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! I just don't want to see you go through the same thing........... I’ve learned, never recommend. I take great pride; when you refer someone and they suck, you feel like somehow it’s your fault…. Work is hard enough, why add that hassle? It might be fine, and it might not…. but I wouldn’t refer anyone to my work place and take that chance again.

It’s not territorial. It’s what you do for a living, it’s where you spend the majority of your time….. It’s your bread and butter.

I know you already said to have this person send their resume but *there are still ways around that.

DON’T DO IT! *Can you tell I’ve been burned? Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! I just don’t want to see you go through the same thing………..

]]> By: kilax http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2807 kilax Wed, 28 May 2008 02:38:32 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2807 Kyra - That is totally how I am feeling... this person will expect me to act how I did in college, or make assumptions based on that... she will be evaluating me no matter what I do! And like you said, I'll be doing the same! CourtneyInControl - I think she would have written the post better than me! martymankins - I like being comfortable, and feeling like I have things figured out... even though I don't. Well - I HAVE figured out other people's quirks. Ha ha! But a new employee wouldn't affect that too much! E - It seems like there were a set of friends that lived near us, and we saw them at a wedding, states away and said "we should get together back home!" and never did! I know it's common, but I wish it wasn't. It's hard for me to visualize working with this person, because while I knew them, I didn't know them really well... I wouldn't want to put a word in for her to my boss, then have to pay the price if it was a flop! Robin - Yikes! That sounds awful. It's probably something you weren't expecting :( Jess - A few months ago a coworker got a $100 bonus for referring a friend. I was SO JEALOUS! But then I thought about it ... who would I recommend? I couldn't think of anyone in the area! Angela - You're right. I doubt she'll even apply. I think my friend thought it was one of those things were I was just <i>saying</i> have her send her resume in, and not really meaning it. Gina (Mannyed) - This guy came to my wedding too, and was SO much fun on the dance floor! Why can't I stay more in touch with people? We're all just so busy with our lives... :( marissa - I do feel like it's my space... whether that is right or not, that is where the hesitation is stemming from. I feel some sort of undeserved ownership! Thank you for stopping by! I was excited to find your blog. Your writing is great! Cheryl - I am starting to really doubt anything will happen, but it gave me a lot of scary "what if?" thoughts! ;) Kyra – That is totally how I am feeling… this person will expect me to act how I did in college, or make assumptions based on that… she will be evaluating me no matter what I do! And like you said, I’ll be doing the same!

CourtneyInControl – I think she would have written the post better than me!

martymankins – I like being comfortable, and feeling like I have things figured out… even though I don’t. Well – I HAVE figured out other people’s quirks. Ha ha! But a new employee wouldn’t affect that too much!

E – It seems like there were a set of friends that lived near us, and we saw them at a wedding, states away and said “we should get together back home!” and never did! I know it’s common, but I wish it wasn’t. It’s hard for me to visualize working with this person, because while I knew them, I didn’t know them really well… I wouldn’t want to put a word in for her to my boss, then have to pay the price if it was a flop!

Robin – Yikes! That sounds awful. It’s probably something you weren’t expecting :(

Jess – A few months ago a coworker got a $100 bonus for referring a friend. I was SO JEALOUS! But then I thought about it … who would I recommend? I couldn’t think of anyone in the area!

Angela – You’re right. I doubt she’ll even apply. I think my friend thought it was one of those things were I was just saying have her send her resume in, and not really meaning it.

Gina (Mannyed) – This guy came to my wedding too, and was SO much fun on the dance floor! Why can’t I stay more in touch with people? We’re all just so busy with our lives… :(

marissa – I do feel like it’s my space… whether that is right or not, that is where the hesitation is stemming from. I feel some sort of undeserved ownership! Thank you for stopping by! I was excited to find your blog. Your writing is great!

Cheryl – I am starting to really doubt anything will happen, but it gave me a lot of scary “what if?” thoughts! ;)

]]> By: Cheryl http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2805 Cheryl Wed, 28 May 2008 01:43:25 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2805 Oh my gosh. It makes perfect sense to me and that is so something I would probably do myself. I think you're right, nothing will come of it anyway. Oh my gosh. It makes perfect sense to me and that is so something I would probably do myself. I think you’re right, nothing will come of it anyway.

]]> By: marissa http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2802 marissa Tue, 27 May 2008 20:38:15 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2802 oh i totally get what you mean here. i would feel much the same way. it's your space, and you're probably a different person now than you were then. so there's that fear too, i'm sure. it's a tricky situation, but i guess it's all about the boundaries. thank you so much for your comment the other day. it really made me smile. i can't wait to read more of your blog! oh i totally get what you mean here. i would feel much the same way. it’s your space, and you’re probably a different person now than you were then. so there’s that fear too, i’m sure. it’s a tricky situation, but i guess it’s all about the boundaries.

thank you so much for your comment the other day. it really made me smile. i can’t wait to read more of your blog!

]]> By: Gina (Mannyed) http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2801 Gina (Mannyed) Tue, 27 May 2008 18:18:40 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2801 I worked with someone in a prior law firm, he went to my wedding, I went to his, and we both switched firms and are within a block from each other -- u would think we would see each other often, but NOPE! We FINALLY met up last week and vowed to not be strangers anymore. I totally see your hesitation. I usually hesitate with stuff like that because if it doesnt work out I'm afraid it would make me look bad. Kinda silly. I worked with someone in a prior law firm, he went to my wedding, I went to his, and we both switched firms and are within a block from each other — u would think we would see each other often, but NOPE! We FINALLY met up last week and vowed to not be strangers anymore.

I totally see your hesitation. I usually hesitate with stuff like that because if it doesnt work out I’m afraid it would make me look bad. Kinda silly.

]]> By: Angela http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2800 Angela Tue, 27 May 2008 18:04:18 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2800 Well before you get too nervous, she might now even apply. And if she does, she might not get hired. But I can see your point. That's YOUR firm. And now someone you know is coming in? I'd be a little weirded out maybe. Well before you get too nervous, she might now even apply. And if she does, she might not get hired.

But I can see your point. That’s YOUR firm. And now someone you know is coming in? I’d be a little weirded out maybe.

]]> By: Jess http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2799 Jess Tue, 27 May 2008 17:25:44 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2799 I have that concern too! My company has a thing where they give you money if you refer someone who ends up getting hired, and I've thought about doing it, but I always think it would be so awkward to work with a friend! Even though in reality it probably wouldn't be weird at all. I have that concern too! My company has a thing where they give you money if you refer someone who ends up getting hired, and I’ve thought about doing it, but I always think it would be so awkward to work with a friend! Even though in reality it probably wouldn’t be weird at all.

]]> By: Robin http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2798 Robin Tue, 27 May 2008 15:58:45 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2008/05/27/territorial/#comment-2798 Don't do it!!! We hired someone I went to college with and she was a nightmare to work with. She would undermine me every chance she got. She completely divided our department. She is gone now and everyone gets along again. Don’t do it!!! We hired someone I went to college with and she was a nightmare to work with. She would undermine me every chance she got. She completely divided our department. She is gone now and everyone gets along again.

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