The truth about spending long weekends with your family [16]Comments on: http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/ Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Wed, 15 Feb 2012 01:44:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: kilax http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-11033 kilax Sun, 21 Jun 2009 22:02:01 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-11033 christina - You aren't surprised, are you? ;) christina – You aren’t surprised, are you? ;)

]]> By: christina http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-10507 christina Fri, 29 May 2009 22:31:25 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-10507 :( :(

]]> By: kilax http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-10483 kilax Fri, 29 May 2009 11:52:24 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-10483 Mica - Thanks! And I don't feel like this ALL the time. Just, uh, most of the time? ;) Kyra - I hope your weekend doesn't make you want to run screaming like mine did! And it's not my mother that makes me crazy (OR, was making me crazy this time). It was extended family ;) Jo - Oh gosh, you cannot BELIEVE how happy I was to be home and sleep in my own bed! I instantly felt a little bit better! Hotch Potchery - So maybe I need to do a little switcheroo (have you seen the "Mother Lover" video?!) and just be happy when it is back to peace and quiet? sizzle - I am thinking more and more that therapy is going to be necessary for me too. I am just so anxious lately. I am actually planning on calling my insurance people today to ask them about it! Etta - Ha! That is too funny you say that! My sister brought a friend this weekend, and my mom said to him, "Are you old enough to drink? You may need to to put up with these people!" We have cut trips short before too. It's the worst when you are stuck there because of a flight though! Boo! Cheryl - At least it is kind of sunny this morning! Maybe it will be during lunch too! ;) JavaQueen - I actually know EXACTLY what you mean. I have been trying to set up low expectations for people, so I am not shocked by how they act. I don't feel like this is negative... just realistic ;) Mica – Thanks! And I don’t feel like this ALL the time. Just, uh, most of the time? ;)

Kyra – I hope your weekend doesn’t make you want to run screaming like mine did! And it’s not my mother that makes me crazy (OR, was making me crazy this time). It was extended family ;)

Jo – Oh gosh, you cannot BELIEVE how happy I was to be home and sleep in my own bed! I instantly felt a little bit better!

Hotch Potchery – So maybe I need to do a little switcheroo (have you seen the “Mother Lover” video?!) and just be happy when it is back to peace and quiet?

sizzle – I am thinking more and more that therapy is going to be necessary for me too. I am just so anxious lately. I am actually planning on calling my insurance people today to ask them about it!

Etta – Ha! That is too funny you say that! My sister brought a friend this weekend, and my mom said to him, “Are you old enough to drink? You may need to to put up with these people!” We have cut trips short before too. It’s the worst when you are stuck there because of a flight though! Boo!

Cheryl – At least it is kind of sunny this morning! Maybe it will be during lunch too! ;)

JavaQueen – I actually know EXACTLY what you mean. I have been trying to set up low expectations for people, so I am not shocked by how they act. I don’t feel like this is negative… just realistic ;)

]]> By: JavaQueen http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-10479 JavaQueen Fri, 29 May 2009 05:18:59 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-10479 Ya know what makes me mad? It takes a long time to learn that you cannot control others... it's one of those hard, reoccurring life-lessons. I think I might have actually gotten it down finally but I remember so many disappointments due to assuming people would treat me as nice as I treated them, or be as caring as I am. Yeah, that never happens. Now, I just assume people- even FAMILY suck and when someone is nice or kind- it's just a bonus. I know that sounds bad but I had set myself up for too much disappointment. Now, it's finally hit home that I can only count on my hubs and my kids.... Man, that sounded really negative and depressing and I don't mean to be that way... but this is how I managed that problem and it works for me. I'm happy with my huz and kids because they are always there for me and that's all I really need. Ya know what makes me mad? It takes a long time to learn that you cannot control others… it’s one of those hard, reoccurring life-lessons. I think I might have actually gotten it down finally but I remember so many disappointments due to assuming people would treat me as nice as I treated them, or be as caring as I am. Yeah, that never happens. Now, I just assume people- even FAMILY suck and when someone is nice or kind- it’s just a bonus. I know that sounds bad but I had set myself up for too much disappointment. Now, it’s finally hit home that I can only count on my hubs and my kids…. Man, that sounded really negative and depressing and I don’t mean to be that way… but this is how I managed that problem and it works for me. I’m happy with my huz and kids because they are always there for me and that’s all I really need.

]]> By: Cheryl http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-10473 Cheryl Thu, 28 May 2009 16:03:44 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-10473 You know what doesn't help lift a fog? This weather! I hope you're feeling better. Here's to this coming weekend. You know what doesn’t help lift a fog? This weather! I hope you’re feeling better. Here’s to this coming weekend.

]]> By: Etta http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-10466 Etta Thu, 28 May 2009 14:24:05 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-10466 We feel the same about our families. I'm actually quite fine with the fact that we live in central Illinois and our families are near KC. We went home last Friday with plans to stay until Monday. We pulled into our driveway on Sunday evening. I'm used to my crazy family, but my husband's family is on another level entirely. I always ask if we can get really drunk before we visit them. We feel the same about our families. I’m actually quite fine with the fact that we live in central Illinois and our families are near KC. We went home last Friday with plans to stay until Monday. We pulled into our driveway on Sunday evening.

I’m used to my crazy family, but my husband’s family is on another level entirely. I always ask if we can get really drunk before we visit them.

]]> By: sizzle http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-10465 sizzle Thu, 28 May 2009 13:47:32 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-10465 I am like that with a great many people, not just family. My issues with control really act up when I am forced to interact with people repeatedly and on-going. I worry this makes me some sort of freak! Hence, therapy. I love my family but I take them in small doses. That way, we all live. :-) I am like that with a great many people, not just family. My issues with control really act up when I am forced to interact with people repeatedly and on-going. I worry this makes me some sort of freak! Hence, therapy. I love my family but I take them in small doses. That way, we all live. :-)

]]> By: Hotch Potchery http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-10464 Hotch Potchery Thu, 28 May 2009 13:42:58 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-10464 I am just the opposite...I am SO damn glad everyone is gone I am feeling spectacular. I don't miss them at all (except my sister and her family, I miss them). I am just the opposite…I am SO damn glad everyone is gone I am feeling spectacular. I don’t miss them at all (except my sister and her family, I miss them).

]]> By: Jo http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-10463 Jo Thu, 28 May 2009 13:00:18 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-10463 I wish I would have been that wise at 24. I'm 43 and just figuring out to control myself and avoid crazies. It's good to be home, isn't it? Home sweet home! I wish I would have been that wise at 24. I’m 43 and just figuring out to control myself and avoid crazies.

It’s good to be home, isn’t it? Home sweet home!

]]> By: Kyra http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/05/27/the-truth-about-spending-long-weekends-with-your-family/#comment-10461 Kyra Thu, 28 May 2009 11:59:48 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=2897#comment-10461 OK.... dying of curiosity about what happened... ;) Family is crazy, I think by definition. I'm going to work really, really hard to not make my kids feel that way, though. It's one of my fears that they'll be happy to live across the country from me. :( (We're in VT, and my family is in AZ and his family is in CO.) ** my inlaws arrive at 5PM tonight, a day early. So, funny you should post this. ;) OK…. dying of curiosity about what happened… ;)

Family is crazy, I think by definition. I’m going to work really, really hard to not make my kids feel that way, though. It’s one of my fears that they’ll be happy to live across the country from me. :( (We’re in VT, and my family is in AZ and his family is in CO.)

** my inlaws arrive at 5PM tonight, a day early. So, funny you should post this. ;)

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