Comments on: Sometimes there’s no one to talk to http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/ Enthusiasm is contagious; start an epidemic. Sat, 31 Jul 2010 15:36:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: kilax http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11143 kilax Wed, 24 Jun 2009 22:21:25 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11143 Gina (Mannyed) - I am encouraged by your success story ;) Jo - I'm sorry. What I said didn't come out right. I don't think SAHMs and home schoolers sit at home all day by themselves. It's cool that there are groups you meet up with! I can understand about not clicking with people. A lot of the people who are my age at my office are really nice, but all they want to talk about is drinking and partying, which I am not in to! Gina (Mannyed) – I am encouraged by your success story ;)

Jo – I’m sorry. What I said didn’t come out right. I don’t think SAHMs and home schoolers sit at home all day by themselves. It’s cool that there are groups you meet up with! I can understand about not clicking with people. A lot of the people who are my age at my office are really nice, but all they want to talk about is drinking and partying, which I am not in to!

]]> By: Jo http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11140 Jo Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:43:57 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11140 I just need to clarify something. I don't mean to imply that as a SAHM or homeschooler we don't get any social interaction. We do things with homeschooling friends and the local group. My son also has after-school classes that he takes and I usually see his teachers. It's just not "my" kind of socialization. Lovely women, but none that I click with. No stimulating conversation. Not good-friend material for me, but very nice ladies nonetheless. IYKWIM I just need to clarify something. I don’t mean to imply that as a SAHM or homeschooler we don’t get any social interaction. We do things with homeschooling friends and the local group. My son also has after-school classes that he takes and I usually see his teachers. It’s just not “my” kind of socialization. Lovely women, but none that I click with. No stimulating conversation. Not good-friend material for me, but very nice ladies nonetheless. IYKWIM

]]> By: Gina (Mannyed) http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11136 Gina (Mannyed) Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:27:24 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11136 I love when I don't have to supplement my story with those pesky extra details bc I know the other person doesn't need the explanation bc they already know it. And while I didn't have the maternity thing happen to me, my faithful co-working friend was out for several weeks due to foot surgery. : ( We survived tho! I love when I don’t have to supplement my story with those pesky extra details bc I know the other person doesn’t need the explanation bc they already know it. And while I didn’t have the maternity thing happen to me, my faithful co-working friend was out for several weeks due to foot surgery. : ( We survived tho!

]]> By: kilax http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11129 kilax Wed, 24 Jun 2009 17:18:32 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11129 Beth - I had a job in college where I had to walk around campus by myself and do all of these tests, by myself. I was good at it, but it made me crazy not interacting with people! I guess we are just more social creatures ;) Erin - You poor thing! You must feel totally shut out from everyone, being in an office! At least I am in a cubicle, hearing interaction around me (this guy is always singing at his desk and it makes me crazy!). Does everyone has offices there? Does anyone make an effort to be social? Jo - That is something I have wondered about - how SAHMs and home schoolers do without the social interaction. It sounds like you really don't get it during the day OR in the evening. At least you have your husband to confide in, right? We don't know many people where we live, so whenever we go out with friends, it is a great treat, because it is usually just the two of us. Etta - I enjoy certain people too ;) You don't think about it, but them being around really affects your morale! It is not until they come back that you realize that is why you were feeling so much better before they left! Mica - I hope I can! I don't expect, or WANT, to be best buds with everyone. I just want people to talk to to relieve stress from time to time! And you're VERY observant! You noticed how down I was before I even mentioned anything ;) Julia - Thank you so much for your pep talk! You are such a sweetie! I notice a lot of times I feel so much more relieved about things after I write them out on here. I am not sure if it is writing them out and letting the steam out, or knowing that other people relate, or just sharing... but wow, it sure is easy to overshare ;) Ashley - I am sorry :( I bet a lot of people are dealing with situations like that right now. You get so used to someone, it is hard if they leave, especially if involuntarily! Gemfit - I am excited you get to go back to all of those friends! I would be apprehensive about working from home too. Maybe you can go to the library or a coffee shop or something? You could make new friends while you work. And I agree - a lot of bloggers ARE social. We spend a lot of time with our computers, but we are not disconnected from real life relationships! (most of us!) diane - That is it - it's the trust! It's so rare that you find someone who genuinely wants the best for you. I would be sad if I was in your situation today too! CourtneyInControl - Thanks :) I hope you can be semi-social with the people at your work! But if I am remembering some of the stories you told me... you really can't :( Amy - We do! There are probably some studies that support that. If I was a really cool blogger I would look that up... sizzle - I'm sorry your friend is leaving! I love people with a good sense of humor. They are usually less stressed out, more "zen." I bet you are nervous about his replacement. I am always nervous about new people... not in a "dreading" someone new way, but just curious. LiLu - Hee hee. At least keeps you going ;) Hotch Potchery - Hey, I have days like that too. Usually Mondays ;) but it's okay :) Beth – I had a job in college where I had to walk around campus by myself and do all of these tests, by myself. I was good at it, but it made me crazy not interacting with people! I guess we are just more social creatures ;)

Erin – You poor thing! You must feel totally shut out from everyone, being in an office! At least I am in a cubicle, hearing interaction around me (this guy is always singing at his desk and it makes me crazy!). Does everyone has offices there? Does anyone make an effort to be social?

Jo – That is something I have wondered about – how SAHMs and home schoolers do without the social interaction. It sounds like you really don’t get it during the day OR in the evening. At least you have your husband to confide in, right? We don’t know many people where we live, so whenever we go out with friends, it is a great treat, because it is usually just the two of us.

Etta – I enjoy certain people too ;) You don’t think about it, but them being around really affects your morale! It is not until they come back that you realize that is why you were feeling so much better before they left!

Mica – I hope I can! I don’t expect, or WANT, to be best buds with everyone. I just want people to talk to to relieve stress from time to time! And you’re VERY observant! You noticed how down I was before I even mentioned anything ;)

Julia – Thank you so much for your pep talk! You are such a sweetie! I notice a lot of times I feel so much more relieved about things after I write them out on here. I am not sure if it is writing them out and letting the steam out, or knowing that other people relate, or just sharing… but wow, it sure is easy to overshare ;)

Ashley – I am sorry :( I bet a lot of people are dealing with situations like that right now. You get so used to someone, it is hard if they leave, especially if involuntarily!

Gemfit – I am excited you get to go back to all of those friends! I would be apprehensive about working from home too. Maybe you can go to the library or a coffee shop or something? You could make new friends while you work. And I agree – a lot of bloggers ARE social. We spend a lot of time with our computers, but we are not disconnected from real life relationships! (most of us!)

diane – That is it – it’s the trust! It’s so rare that you find someone who genuinely wants the best for you. I would be sad if I was in your situation today too!

CourtneyInControl – Thanks :) I hope you can be semi-social with the people at your work! But if I am remembering some of the stories you told me… you really can’t :(

Amy – We do! There are probably some studies that support that. If I was a really cool blogger I would look that up…

sizzle – I’m sorry your friend is leaving! I love people with a good sense of humor. They are usually less stressed out, more “zen.” I bet you are nervous about his replacement. I am always nervous about new people… not in a “dreading” someone new way, but just curious.

LiLu – Hee hee. At least keeps you going ;)

Hotch Potchery – Hey, I have days like that too. Usually Mondays ;) but it’s okay :)

]]> By: Hotch Potchery http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11126 Hotch Potchery Wed, 24 Jun 2009 16:41:24 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11126 I don't like to talk to people. I prefer days at work with NO personal interaction. I suck. I don’t like to talk to people. I prefer days at work with NO personal interaction. I suck.

]]> By: LiLu http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11125 LiLu Wed, 24 Jun 2009 15:37:05 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11125 I would go nuts without my partner in crime! She keeps me sane. (Well, relatively...) I would go nuts without my partner in crime! She keeps me sane. (Well, relatively…)

]]> By: sizzle http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11123 sizzle Wed, 24 Jun 2009 14:48:56 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11123 One of my friends is leaving work in a few weeks and I'm sad. He's got a great sense of humor and is always fun to be around. I'm truly going to miss him. I know what you mean! And human interaction? Essential! One of my friends is leaving work in a few weeks and I’m sad. He’s got a great sense of humor and is always fun to be around. I’m truly going to miss him. I know what you mean! And human interaction? Essential!

]]> By: Amy http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11121 Amy Wed, 24 Jun 2009 14:21:31 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11121 Aww, that is sad! Gotta have someone to talk to. Jobs can be boring, but when we have some social interaction with people we like, I think we perform better. Aww, that is sad! Gotta have someone to talk to. Jobs can be boring, but when we have some social interaction with people we like, I think we perform better.

]]> By: CourtneyInControl http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11120 CourtneyInControl Wed, 24 Jun 2009 14:20:08 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11120 it makes me feel so good when someone interjects with something that i've said or mentioned, it makes me feel like, oh, they did listen to me!!!! and i miss having a good friend at work, someone i can just chat with... i don't have anyone like that at my current job... but it helps so much!!! i don't think you overshare and even though i'm not there you can always reach out to me!!!! :o) =^..^= it makes me feel so good when someone interjects with something that i’ve said or mentioned, it makes me feel like, oh, they did listen to me!!!!
and i miss having a good friend at work, someone i can just chat with… i don’t have anyone like that at my current job… but it helps so much!!!
i don’t think you overshare and even though i’m not there you can always reach out to me!!!! :o )
=^..^=

]]> By: diane http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/06/23/no-one-to-talk-to/#comment-11119 diane Wed, 24 Jun 2009 13:05:37 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=3169#comment-11119 I feel that way about my cube neighbor. It is so good to have someone you TRUST to vent to, or just make the day go faster. She is actually in training today and I'm so sad! And she said she feels the same way when I am out, which is sweet. I'm sorry your trusted friend is going to be gone so long! I feel that way about my cube neighbor. It is so good to have someone you TRUST to vent to, or just make the day go faster. She is actually in training today and I’m so sad! And she said she feels the same way when I am out, which is sweet.
I’m sorry your trusted friend is going to be gone so long!

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