“Bad” Gift-Giving and Marital Strain [31]Comments on: http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/ Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Wed, 15 Feb 2012 01:44:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bethany http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15459 Bethany Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:32:52 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15459 Wow, that box he made is gorgeous! I have a hard time buying things my family will enjoy unless they start to give me ideas, then I'm okay! My mom is the hardest to buy for, though. .-= Author's last blog post... <a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/BethanysParadise/~3/k5AV8JVVv4w/money-madness.html" rel="nofollow">Money Madness</a> =-. Wow, that box he made is gorgeous! I have a hard time buying things my family will enjoy unless they start to give me ideas, then I’m okay! My mom is the hardest to buy for, though.
.-= Author’s last blog post… Money Madness =-.

]]> By: sizzle http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15319 sizzle Thu, 17 Dec 2009 05:47:43 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15319 My last boyfriend was a horrible gift giver but that's because he's a narcissist and only thinks of himself. But! I have had awesome male gift givers- so thoughtful and generous. I love the handmade stuff or the experiential gifts. I like knowing someone that cares about me cared enough to pay attention to who I am and thought about what I would like. I don't buy into the gender stereotype at all. .-= Author's last blog post... <a href="http://sizzlesays.wordpress.com/2009/12/16/why-i-almost-punched-someone-in-the-face-yesterday-a-rant/" rel="nofollow">Protected: Why I Almost Punched Someone In The Face Yesterday</a> =-. My last boyfriend was a horrible gift giver but that’s because he’s a narcissist and only thinks of himself. But! I have had awesome male gift givers- so thoughtful and generous. I love the handmade stuff or the experiential gifts. I like knowing someone that cares about me cared enough to pay attention to who I am and thought about what I would like. I don’t buy into the gender stereotype at all.
.-= Author’s last blog post… Protected: Why I Almost Punched Someone In The Face Yesterday =-.

]]> By: Caroline http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15315 Caroline Thu, 17 Dec 2009 03:46:30 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15315 I think what makes a good gift is the amount of effort someone put into it, if they're really excited to give it to you and they think its something you'll like. That's what makes gift exchange fun. I usually get more excited about what I give than what I get. .-= Author's last blog post... <a href="http://sunapeegirl.wordpress.com/2009/12/16/done/" rel="nofollow">DONE!!</a> =-. I think what makes a good gift is the amount of effort someone put into it, if they’re really excited to give it to you and they think its something you’ll like. That’s what makes gift exchange fun. I usually get more excited about what I give than what I get.
.-= Author’s last blog post… DONE!! =-.

]]> By: Leah http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15314 Leah Wed, 16 Dec 2009 23:55:45 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15314 My boyfriend has only ever messed up with a gift once. And I hate even saying that because Im all about the thought. Ive always believed that if someone is nice enough to buy you something, you pretend to love it even if you dont. Giving is half the fun, and who am I to take that away from them? The "bad" gift, was actually very thoughtful, and I felt horrible about throwing a fit over it. Which I did. He took me away for my birthday weekend. But then invited HIS friends. Not my friends. His. I was super upset about it. But he thought he was doing something so wonderful, and was so proud of himself, and I ruined that for him. I still feel bad about it. .-= Author's last blog post... <a href="http://whydeprive.wordpress.com/2009/12/16/lessons-learned/" rel="nofollow">Lessons Learned</a> =-. My boyfriend has only ever messed up with a gift once. And I hate even saying that because Im all about the thought. Ive always believed that if someone is nice enough to buy you something, you pretend to love it even if you dont. Giving is half the fun, and who am I to take that away from them?
The “bad” gift, was actually very thoughtful, and I felt horrible about throwing a fit over it. Which I did. He took me away for my birthday weekend. But then invited HIS friends. Not my friends. His. I was super upset about it. But he thought he was doing something so wonderful, and was so proud of himself, and I ruined that for him. I still feel bad about it.
.-= Author’s last blog post… Lessons Learned =-.

]]> By: almostvegetarian.com http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15313 almostvegetarian.com Wed, 16 Dec 2009 23:33:46 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15313 My husband is the king of amazing presents . Which means, right now, I will not get what I really want: A vacuum cleaner! The one we have sucks. Erm, doesn't suck. You know. And it makes me crazy. Still, whatever I do get will be cherished. But it won't suck! My husband is the king of amazing presents . Which means, right now, I will not get what I really want: A vacuum cleaner!

The one we have sucks. Erm, doesn’t suck. You know. And it makes me crazy.

Still, whatever I do get will be cherished.

But it won’t suck!

]]> By: lifestudent http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15312 lifestudent Wed, 16 Dec 2009 23:23:40 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15312 my hubby is the king of bad gifts. And honestly, if I get another bad gift this year there is gonna be some "marital strain" ;) my hubby is the king of bad gifts. And honestly, if I get another bad gift this year there is gonna be some “marital strain” ;)

]]> By: Anna @ Newlywed, Newly Veg http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15309 Anna @ Newlywed, Newly Veg Wed, 16 Dec 2009 21:08:20 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15309 Wow-- that box is amazing! I'm so impressed that your hub made that! My husband is so hard to buy for...he just can never think of anything that he wants! I got him a tent for his birthday last year, and that was a pretty big hit, plus we've gotten a lot of use out of it. He definitely likes practical gifts (and I am very much in love with the non-practical ones :-) ) .-= Author's last blog post... <a href="http://newlywednewlyveg.wordpress.com/2009/12/16/a-good-egg/" rel="nofollow">A Good Egg</a> =-. Wow– that box is amazing! I’m so impressed that your hub made that!

My husband is so hard to buy for…he just can never think of anything that he wants! I got him a tent for his birthday last year, and that was a pretty big hit, plus we’ve gotten a lot of use out of it. He definitely likes practical gifts (and I am very much in love with the non-practical ones :-) )
.-= Author’s last blog post… A Good Egg =-.

]]> By: Vicki http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15308 Vicki Wed, 16 Dec 2009 20:50:15 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15308 That box Steven made is beautiful! I don't really think those stereotypes hold up. My husband is usually more thoughtful with gifts than I am, even if his efforts are unsuccessful. .-= Author's last blog post... <a href="http://chubbyvegan1.blogspot.com/2009/12/yesterday-was-day-2-of-my-new-plan.html" rel="nofollow">Randomness</a> =-. That box Steven made is beautiful!

I don’t really think those stereotypes hold up. My husband is usually more thoughtful with gifts than I am, even if his efforts are unsuccessful.
.-= Author’s last blog post… Randomness =-.

]]> By: Lindsay http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15307 Lindsay Wed, 16 Dec 2009 20:33:32 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15307 What sucks for me this year is trying to get something for a guy that I only recently started dating a few months ago. I feel like I barely know him and yet I'm supposed to find something good?! He's not into all the gadgety stuff of running, yet I still got him a heart rate monitor. Luckily, we were talking about heart rate the other day, so maybe he'll at least find it interesting?? At least I'm hoping so... What sucks for me this year is trying to get something for a guy that I only recently started dating a few months ago. I feel like I barely know him and yet I’m supposed to find something good?! He’s not into all the gadgety stuff of running, yet I still got him a heart rate monitor. Luckily, we were talking about heart rate the other day, so maybe he’ll at least find it interesting?? At least I’m hoping so…

]]> By: lynn @ the actors diet http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/2009/12/16/bad-gift-giving-and-marital-strain/#comment-15305 lynn @ the actors diet Wed, 16 Dec 2009 19:49:15 +0000 http://www.ilaxstudio.com/blog/?p=5975#comment-15305 i'm often giving my husband things i think i'd like to see him have that he won't buy for himself (nice pj's, for example) and he often buys me things that he really wants (like video games) .-= Author's last blog post... <a href="http://theactorsdiet.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/lynn-hijacked/" rel="nofollow">Lynn – Hijacked!</a> =-. i’m often giving my husband things i think i’d like to see him have that he won’t buy for himself (nice pj’s, for example) and he often buys me things that he really wants (like video games)
.-= Author’s last blog post… Lynn – Hijacked! =-.

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