… how much do they mean? And does it make more of a difference at work or with friends?
This is sort of a continuation on yesterday’s post pointing out my flaws… should this be my “flaw” week?
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Hypocrite alert! Last Thursday I was telling Anne how I wished I had trusted my instinct after a first impression left me thinking someone was quite negative. I hung out with that person a second and third time and they turned out just to be just as negative as the first encounter. Bummer. It killed my mood both times. I was telling myself “they must have just been having a bad day before…” Lesson learned!
But! On Saturday, Bobbi and I were having a conversation about how someone we thought we wouldn’t really click with turns out to be hilarious and one of our favorite people to hang with! So! Which is it, Kim?! Do you want to go with your first impressions, or not?! Lesson not learned?
Well, it’s not fair to judge someone based on meeting them once when they might just be having an awful (or off) day, right? And, everyone deserves a second chance?
But gah, sometimes people do leave such bad first impressions! And I feel like sometimes you just know, based on a first impression, if you are really going to click with someone… or if you wouldn’t care if you crossed paths with them ever again. It’s so interesting, how you just know. Hmm. Maybe this has something to do with being a good judge of character? Or just knowing the type of people you like to be around. Maybe someone likes having a really negative friend… uh…
What kind of first impression do you think you leave with someone?
In my personal life – probably loud and obnoxious. At work, uh, loud and obnoxious to my internal team. Maybe quiet to those who don’t know me well!