Oh, brother

By , May 8, 2013 9:21 am

Let’s play a game. 

What item do you think my brother is talking about me sending him in the text below?


If you are the first person to guess correctly, and you need one, I will send it to you! Guess away!

Speaking of brothers, remember me mentioning my brother-in-law, Andrew, had a cold while he was visiting this weekend? Yeah, guess who has a cold now and was too sick to go in to the office today? Ugh, thanks, Andrew. Not. IKY. 

And speaking of siblings… let’s talk about sibling ranking. Ha! That sounds bad. That is probably not what it is called. But let’s talk about where you are – are you an only, eldest, middle or youngest child (or maybe a twin)? Do you think that your birth order has any effect on your personality/where you ended up in life?

I was talking to my friend Emily on Monday about sibling rank. She’s a middle child. I am too. We talked about the stereotype of the middle child being the “outsider.” I won’t get in to it much (that is left up to YOU!), but I do think it is interesting how siblings can turn out with such different personalities/lifestyles, even though they were raised (presumably) the same way. 

55 Responses to “Oh, brother”

  1. Aww I hope you feel better- that’s no fun!
    As for the text, is he referring to the anti-chafing roll on products? That’d be my best guess!
    Sibling dynamics are so interesting to me…I’m an only child and love talking about the dynamic with Tyler who has two other siblings. And my parents had lots of siblings too so I’m thinking that’s why they wanted just one kid 🙂

    • kilax says:

      Ha! That is interesting that your parents come from big families and decided to just have one kid 🙂 When I was growing up I always thought I would want a lot of kids since I have three siblings. Not anymore.

      Nope, to your guess! 😉

  2. Oh, no! Feel better soon.

    Is a leg tube a compression sleeve?

    I am the oldest of two, and I think my brother and I definitely fit the stereotypes of our sibling rank. I am bossy, ambitious and organized (sort of on the last two but definitely on No. 1) where he is more care-free and complacent. While we grew up in the same house, I would say that we weren’t raised the same – I was often left to do things on my own and he was coddled – and those differences probably helped mold the outcome of our beings. Yeah. I said I was a being. deal snotty nose.

    • kilax says:

      LOL. Does your brother agree that he was coddled? 😉 It would be interesting to have all the siblings describe their upbringing. Not saying your description is not accurate… just thinking about what my siblings would say 😉

      That’s not it!

    • Alyssa says:

      I think I could have written the same thing about my brother and me!

  3. Debbie d says:

    The stick for rolling out tight muscles

  4. bobbi says:

    A knee brace?

    I’m the oldest. And I DO think birth order has a lot of influence on your personality…

  5. Amy says:

    I’m an oldest too, and I agree with Bobbi – it has a huge influence on your personality. Of course, being a bossy oldest, I would think that, wouldn’t I? 😉

  6. EmilyJ says:

    Yuck! Sorry about the cold 🙁 I hope the cold medicine helps and you feel better quickly!!

    I think a leg tube is a compression sleeve too. Am I right?!?

    Sibling dynamics are the most interesting thing to me (especially now that I see them in my own kids too!) It seems as though even though kids are raised in the same house/same family, there are different things going on at that time. I know my sisters and I got different experiences because of how/where my parents were living at the time. That being said, it seems like the oldest is usually the favorite, the baby is always the baby, and the middle is just the middle. We need to fight tooth and nail to make a name for ourselves and find a place in the family! I think it makes me more of an individual and more self-confident in a lot of ways 🙂

  7. kelsey says:

    I’m going with compression sleeve too!

    I am the baby but I’m treated like I’m the oldest and tend to take care of everyone else so def not stereotypical..

  8. diane says:

    I’ve heard that middle children love to be the center of attention (because they never were growing up). But then I hear the same thing about only children, so who knows.
    I am an only (as you know!) and there are a lot of awful stereotypes out there about us being spoiled brats. I DO love being the center of attention and even at work I find myself getting frustrated when I don’t have my boss “all to myself.” But I also grew up with a ton of expectations on me, and that is largely why I am so hard on myself now. I was it, so I better come out good and right!
    I was never spoiled. I didn’t lack for anything, but I also was raised to work hard for what I have. When people tell me I “don’t act like other only children” it’s a real backhanded compliment.
    (Feel better! P is coming down with a cold as well. We thought we had ALL of the colds already this year, but I guess not.)

    • kilax says:

      Whoa! That is a real backhanded compliment! I never seem to pick up on “only child” tendencies, but know some people who really hone in on that and notice it in others.

      And I do love being the center of attn, as a middle!

      I was surprised to get a cold this late in the year too. NOT. COOL. Hope P’s passes fast!

  9. Jennifer says:

    Leg Tube either refers to Compression socks/sleeves or foam/stick roller

  10. Matt says:

    I’m guessing leg tube/roller would be one of the foam rollers to relax leg muscles.

    Hope you are feeling better soon!

    I’m a first child of three. I’m not sure how much this played into my personality and where I’m at in life, but I have had people comment at times that I must be a first born.

    • kilax says:

      Ding ding ding! It is a foam roller. Since you are the first to answer correctly (as your only guess) send me your mailing address if you need one!

      Ha! I wonder what they mean when they say that!

  11. I’m guessing foam roller!

    I’m an only child.. I wonder what that says about me?

    • kilax says:

      It was a foam roller! Matt guessed right before you. Leg tube? LOL! It cracks me up too, because I think he wanted it to use on his back, not his leg. But I was showing his how to use it on his legs.

      Speaking of legs! Happy you are stress fracture free!!!

      I think it says you are independent, responsible and driven 🙂

  12. Susan says:

    I saw someone already guessed above, but my first thought was a compression sleeve of some sort…but I don’t think I’d ever call it a “tube.”

    I’m technically the youngest child, but I’m also a twin…my sister likes to claim she suffers from middle child syndrome and that everyone liked me the best because I was the youngest. I still don’t agree with her logic…

    • kilax says:

      LOL! IKR? He is not a runner. He cracks me up 🙂 Very cool he wants to use it for myofascial release though!

      Oh geesh. Not to, um… hmm. Not to overstep my bounds, but it sounds like your sister feels a bit sorry for herself! 🙁 I hope she gets over that!

  13. Beth says:

    So sorry you’ve been under the weather! My guess: leg tube = compression sock. I’m an only child, and if you asked other people, I’m sure they’d say that I have some typical “only child” features, but I don’t think I have that really bad “the whole world revolves around me” vibe that some only children get.

  14. J says:

    I have no idea.

    I am an only child. Funny you should bring this up because I am reading the book “the Birth order” and its fascinating. Brian is the youngest with his older bro/sis being fraternal twins. its so amazing how birth order affects you!

    • kilax says:

      Ahh, cool! Do you think you will post anything about what you are reading? That sounds like a super interesting book!

  15. Alyssa says:

    My coworker and I love the subject of birth order. I am the oldest child with one younger brother. I tend to be organized (overly so in some cases and not at all in others) and responsible and sometimes bossy. Although I wouldn’t call him irresponsible, he is certainly not wound as tightly as I am. The most pronounced difference would be in financials. Whereas I am very frugal, money-focuses, and analyze every purchase, he is much more carefree. I am actually a bit jealous of his attitude sometimes.
    Someone was also telling me about how birth order relates to dating relationships. I think she was referencing The Birth Order Book of Love (not sure though). I learned that two oldest siblings are not very compatible because they both like to be in charge which is exactly what Matt and I are. But I think Matt isn’t the typical oldest child personality and also has a little bit of only child experience. I do think his family dynamic influenced his personality just in a different way.

    • kilax says:

      That is interesting to think about how the pairings may affect relationships! Is that kind of like how they say certain astrological signs should not get together? Hee hee. Just kidding. 😉

      • Alyssa says:

        If I tried to follow all those rules about compatibility, I think I would end up alone lol. But those kind of things only have as much credit as you give then.

  16. Erin says:

    I never know how to answer the birth order question. I mean, I’m an only child biologically but had step-siblings who lived with me 50% of the time starting when I was in 5th grade. And I’m the middle child of the three of us. So, I think I must have a weird combination of middle and only child traits.

    And I never would have guessed foam roller! I figured it was another sock drama 🙂

    • kilax says:

      You are 50/50 only/middle? 😛

      Ha ha! Wrong brother. I never did finish the sock story though. Hahahahaha.

  17. I am an only. Kind of. My dad has a daughter but she is still holding a grudge against him marrying my mom 37 years ago. And she is mad I was born. Needless to say, we aren’t close.

    Note- I was NOT raised like a “typical” only child. And it really angers me when people stereotype it!

  18. I’m the oldest, and I think I fit a fair portion of the stereotypes. Perfectionist, responsible, bossy (especially to my siblings when I were were kids): check, check and check. Growing up, I never liked being the oldest. I hated that I had to be the “guinea pig” for everything, if you will. I always kind of felt like my siblings had the advantage of seeing my mistakes and learning from them whereas I had to figure out everything the hard way. Interestingly, I also really enjoyed being a sixth grader, ninth grader, and freshman in college, because I had all these big kids to look up to.

    My brother, who’s the youngest, also gets away with EVERYTHING and it drives me BONKERS. I’m sure part of it is that he’s 17 and I’m pretty sure all 17 year olds, including 17-year-old Bethany, think they know everything there is to know about life, but MAN does he have a ‘tude that I never, ever would’ve gotten away with. Makes me so crazy whenever I’m home haha. I always swear up and down that if I ever have kids, my youngest will NOT get away with murder like my brother! My parents (who were both the oldest in their families) tell me I’m wrong, and as much as I hate to admit it, they’re probably right. Darn parents and their experience! Haha.

    • kilax says:

      I wonder if my brother felt that way with “figuring everything out the hard way”! I will have to ask him! I know that it was hard for the younger siblings to follow us in school because we had been there to be compared to. But I never thought about the idea of having to figure things out!

  19. Emily says:

    My guess is that he ordered compression sleeves or some kind of leg brace, and it came in the mail today?

    I’m an only child! I’m not sure whether or not that had any influence on me today?!?!?!?

    • kilax says:

      It was a foam roller!

      I am not sure what influence that had on you, but you are awesome! So I guess it was a good one 🙂

  20. Fun game! I was going to guess something for the bike! I was imaging a foam thing to go around the tube that goes between your legs… super technical description there 🙂

  21. Michelle says:

    Foam roller???

  22. Michele says:

    HA! Leg tube=foam roller! I call mine a vulgar name that is not suitable for blogs….

    I am the oldest. I have one brother and he’s 8 years younger than me. I fit most “classic” older sibling stereotypes. I’m super organized, like to be in control, neat freak, and over achiever. I am also very driven, highly motivated, and extremely competitive (not sure if that’s part of being the oldest or not). I also feel like I have this overwhelming sense to do well, to make my parents proud, like get straight A’s, be the smartest, the most successful (isn’t that awful?)

    My brother and I don’t have a great relationship and I feel that he sometimes takes advantage of our parents. I feel as though he needs to live through some things and deal with ‘life’ before he realizes what an ass he can be. That being said, I love my brother not matter what, but I feel he has a lot of growing up to do…

    • kilax says:

      What?! Do tell.

      I wonder if age difference has an effect on how strong these stereotypes are! It seems they are strong in you (only the good ones, of course ;)).

      • Michele says:

        I often wonder too if the age difference has something to do with it. If we were closer in age, it might not be as bad. I think also it has to do with him being a boy instead of a girl. Maybe we’d be closer if he was a girl? I don’t know.

        I feel like because of him being a boy, I always look for and want a close girl as a friend to be my sister!

  23. Anne says:

    Heh, I actually asked for a leg tube for Christmas to use it on my back! I use it on my legs more than anything, but it’s still good for rolling out your back.

    I’m the youngest of just 2, and my brother and I couldn’t possibly be more different. He’s a lot more focused than I am, has always been a natural leader, and is a perfectionist, which are all traits of oldest children. I was never really babied (in fact, my mom always encouraged my independence so I’d never have to depend on someone else or feel tied to someone just because of financial reasons – this was probably a result of her experience as a stay-at-home mom – not knocking it, but we’ve talked about this a lot), but like a lot of youngest kids, I always felt like I had to live up to whatever my brother did, and that what I did wouldn’t be good enough. I still sometimes get that feeling because he’s a super successful overachiever career-wise, and I don’t really care about my obscure, hard to understand career.

    • kilax says:

      I am really interesting in that comparison between siblings… because I never felt that with my older brother!

  24. Marcia says:

    I am the second of 6 kids, oldest girl. I definitely have older child traits: large and in charge, responsible,the one who most often hosts family events, etc.

  25. Stephany says:

    I’m the youngest of two and my brother and I are scarily similar. We basically the male & female version of one another. I don’t buy into the stereotypes for us, other than my brother does possess more leadership capabilities and he’s more independent than me. But youngest children are typically loud and outgoing and spoiled? SOOO not me! At all. Ha. Maybe because we’re so close in age (just 14 months apart) and went through a lot together growing up… not sure. But I definitely consider him one of my best friends! 🙂

    I was totally thinking compression sleeves, too. Haha. Leg tube… that’s hilarious! 😉

  26. Meghan says:

    A leg tube…my first guess was “the stick”!

    I hope you are feeling better, girl! I am actually the oldest of four, though I feel like I am also the goofiest, so I think people are often surprised to hear that I am at the top – and 32. Honestly, though, I love being the oldest. I think I fit the mold pretty well, and it was fun watching my siblings grow up.

  27. Sizzle says:

    Being sick = lame. Hope you feel better!

    I am the oldest and it definitely shows.

  28. Kandi says:

    I’m the youngest of two and I think I somewhat fit in with the stereotype of the youngest. I always tried to one-up my brother. 😉 He is two years (exactly since we have the same birthday) older than me.

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