In January Steven and I both had potlucks to go to on the same day. We decided to make one thing that we could both bring – vegan (soy-based) meatballs.*
Steven was taking his meatballs to a potluck for vegans. I was taking mine to a potluck for a book club, where the members had a myriad of diets – gluten-free, soy-free, vegetarian, vegan, and a bunch of others that I can’t recall.
The day before the event, I went to the grocery store searching for BBQ sauce and grape jelly* that didn’t have sugar in it or any “natural flavors.” Steven was really concerned about making sure the meatballs were truly vegan – and most sugar isn’t because it is processed on bone char. Anyway, I found acceptable BBQ sauce and grape jelly, and we were able to share the truly vegan “meatballs.”
So what is the point of that story? Well, I want to share what kind of vegan I am. I am vegan for animals rights issues. Not for health, environment, and so on. Yes, those are nice benefits, but I don’t eat animal products because I have a deep love for animals, that honestly, the intensity of sometimes scares me.
But with all that being said. I am a “do the best I can” vegan. I am not going to sweat it if my sugar is not vegan. I try my hardest to eat vegan at home, and when I go out, but I am just going to assume that sometimes I will consume dairy/eggs by accident. Note: I would NOT be happy to find out someone tricked me in to eating animal flesh. Or for that matter, that someone told me something was vegan when they blatantly knew it wasn’t.
When I was in NYC, I went to a restaurant with a few vegan items on the menu.
The food was so good, I was ordering a lot, and decided to try a vegan dessert the waitress recommended.
When the chef came out to ask how the meal was I told her I was astonished she was able to make that dessert vegan. She told me it wasn’t vegan. The waitress had switched gluten-free with vegan, in her mind (I think).
But! Oh well. What can I do? No point in getting upset about it.
Would that have upset you?
It’s not ideal, but what am I going to do? I take a risk of eating non-vegan things when I go out, and I don’t want to be a hermit, so I am going to eat out.
The thing is, I know vegans have a reputation for being super pushy and for freaking out about things like this. We aren’t all that way (although, I have met many who are, unfortunately).
*I was ASTONISHED to find out meatball sauce has grape jelly in it!!!