By , May 18, 2013 9:34 am


A few times, Bobbi and I have discussed how we have such great groups of friends now, and aren’t sure if we have room for more friends. I’ve wanted to talk about this here, but wasn’t sure how to do it without making myself sound like a huge ass. I think I figured out a way.


Last night, I did trapeze with Erin. ZOMG!!! So fun! I can see why she loves it. But we’ll get to that below.


Huge thanks to Erin for getting me the photos!!!

We were redeeming a Living Social deal that included dinner after trapeze. Erin and I sat at the end of the table with the rest of the Living Social peeps*, and spent most of our time talking to a young couple. 

I was sitting there, talking to them, enjoying our conversation SO MUCH, thinking, “There are so many wonderful, interesting people in the world! I want to meet them all! I want to be friends with them all**.” WANT ALL THE FRIENDS!!!

No, Kim, no. You do not need to make friends with every interesting person you meet. You don’t need to chase down runners in your hood. You barely have time with your closest friends, say, take for instance, the one with you?!?! Gah, if anything, this awesome evening with Erin made me miss all the time we used to spend together when we were training for the Milwaukee Marathon


I just get this urge. When I meet someone and get a good feeling about them, I think “I want to spend more time with them!” I don’t think about the fact (right away) that I barely have time to spend with my close friends now. 

And that is why I sometimes think, “geesh, maybe I should not be trying to make more friends – maybe I have enough.”

So. If that makes any sense. 

Moving on…

The Living Social deal we purchased included introductory lessons with trapeze, silks and acroyoga at Trapeze School New York. There were maybe 20 of us, and we were split in to two groups – one did trapeze while the other tried silks and acroyoga, then we switched. 

My group tried trapeze first (Erin was in our group and just practiced advanced moves since she has been there quite a few times). Holy cow! I tried not to be afraid, but just getting up to the platform to jump off, my body was shaking. Oh, endocrine system. You so smart.


But it was a huge thrill, and I loved it. I am a bit of an adrenaline junkie!


I actually thought playing with the silks and trying the acroyoga was super cool too. 



I made sure to try it out with my dad (my parents are in town for a helicopter tour of Chicago) later last night. Ha ha.  


Since I was able to swing from my knees and extend my arms during my go at trapeze, they let me try a catch. Which… I totally messed up the hands part. Oops! But that was really cool! I got everything else right!


I had so. much. fun. And am so happy that Erin asked me to go. I am not sure I would have thought to try this on my own! I definitely want to go back and try it again… in August. After I take that test in July. DO ALL THE THINGS IN AUGUST! MAKE ALL THE FRIENDS IN AUGUST!

*I was thinking “Who would want to eat dinner with a bunch of strangers?” But if you like making conversation, it’s really fun. I bet that is what it’s like when you get paired to eat dinner with certain couples on cruises. 
**Slight exaggeration.

33 Responses to “WANT ALL THE FRIENDS!!!”

  1. Michelle says:

    HOW FUN!! You guys DO have the coolest group of friends…I know I often get envious of all the super COOL stuff you are always doing together! Keep up the awesome stuff, you inspire many!

  2. diane says:

    What fun!! I did acroyoga once and I LOVED it. Thank you for the reminder that I need to find another class.
    I had a total meltdown on Paul last night about how lonely I feel, and he said “That’s ridiculous, you have tons of friends!” Unfortunately schedules and distance (and the fact that more and more of my friends have one or more kids and full time jobs) make it almost impossible for me to see anyone anymore. 🙁 I told him I just gave up on trying because no one was ever available at the same time. BUT! Then this morning I had a text from a good friend of mine asking if I was free for coffee this afternoon. 🙂 Maybe when you have more friends it’s easier to rotate them in and out? Ha, maybe not.

    • kilax says:

      No, I think that is exactly it! As you do have more friends, you spend the time with whoever is available at the moment, so your close ties change as availability changes… to some extent. What do you think?

      You should go back to acroyoga! I had a blast trying it! 🙂

  3. Declan says:

    Wow! sounds like a fun experience! I see the set up for trapeze in the Broadway Armory (a chicago park district building) and it looks cool, but I have a wussy stomach for things… maybe one day!

    Glad you found it a blast!
    I hope you make all the (sane)friends!

    I’m in the – find all the parents with kids our daughters age and in the area friends – stage! hah

  4. Maggie says:

    I totally get what you mean. I like meeting new people and getting to know them, and then I want us to be good friends and hang out. On top of my current BFFs. But, yeah, then I remember I barely see my already best friends as it is. Sometimes though, Robert will be like “do we need new friends?” I think it’s because we’ve kind of grown out of our group, and really only hang out with one other couple. So, yeah, we probably do need some more couple-friends.

    • kilax says:

      Why do you think it is that you have grown out of your group? That really interests me. You have kind of mentioned it before. Is it a maturity thing?

  5. What a fun night! Also- I can’t get over how thin your face looks in that picture. You’re glowing!!!

    • kilax says:

      Ha ha! My face does look unusually thin in that picture. That must be the only thing flash is good for – making my face look thinner!

  6. Anne says:

    This seems like… not a terrible problem to have? But I think I get it because I was in need-to-make-new-friends mode for a few years when I moved to Chicago, and it’s hard to break out of that sometimes. So I’m always game for new friends, while Bob has the same 3 friends he’s known since junior high, and doesn’t need more than that. So I make new friends, but we don’t try to find couple friends much I guess (Maggie’s comment made me think of that).

    Trapeze class looks like so much fun! I was disappointed to hear that you didn’t do push-ups with Erin and another person planking on top of you though. Sigh, I thought you were badass 😉 And I love that you practiced with your dad LOL! What did he think of it?

    • kilax says:

      When it was just me and Erin, I would move around a bit when I was the base… but I didn’t want to scare that girl on top. You know I was thinking about it though 😉

      Ha ha! My dad said it didn’t hurt! And… that was about it. LOL.

      I wonder if we lived in Steven’s hometown, if I would be more in your situation, because Steven has really close friends all the way from kindergarten! One of them does live out here.

  7. Kim says:

    That looks so fun!!! I love that you did it.

    I think it’s so funny how you say you want all the friends… and if all those people knew how awesome you were they would for sure be begging to be friends with you!

  8. bobbi says:

    This TOTALLY made me think of being on a cruise ship (the one time I went) and chatting with other people at dinner. Or at a wedding where you don’t know very many people.

    But yeah…no time for more. WHich kind of makes me sad, but kind of makes me thankful for how many great people I know 🙂

    Trapeze looks AMAZING. Seriously – that looks so fun! SO glad you got to do it with Erin!!

  9. Losing LIndy says:

    I was just talking about this yesterday that it would be so fun to go!

    And you are so friendly, I think it would be odd if you didn’t want all the friends.

  10. abbi says:

    That looks like a blast and very impressed by the three people stacked photo! You seem like one of those very social people that can make it work with all the friends! 🙂

  11. Xaarlin says:

    Like I said before, you’re like that dog from the movie “Up.” Hehe everyone you see is potentially your new BFF!

    Trapeze looks fun!!!!!! Did you get to make human pyramids with your parents?

    • kilax says:

      LOL! I forgot you said that! I need to watch that movie again!!! 😀

      Sigh. I didn’t do any pyramids with my parents. I really want to try more acroyoga though!

  12. Michele says:

    That looks like so much fun!!!!

    I often feel that way about people sometimes too. Then I don’t want to be weird and be all like, “hey, wanna hang out sometime”. I feel like I’m in elementary school again!!!

  13. Kandi says:

    I think I would LOVE trapeze. It looks awesome and I was always crazy on the jungle gym.
    I completely understand about the friends thing. I worry I won’t have enough time for new friends. I also worry about meeting people at places I can’t really avoid, like the train to work, and then not wanting to be around them… That sounded mean.. but it’s true.

    • kilax says:

      Ha ha. Meeting people you know at places you can’t avoid? Or becoming friends with people there then not being able to avoid them? 😉 I know there are a few times I have avoided bumping in to another person in a common area. You don’t have to like everyone!

  14. Kandi says:

    Oh, and when I was in Spain I saw some girls doing some crazy pyramid thing. I wonder if that was acroyoga? It wasn’t just a standard pyramid where everyone kneels on each other’s backs.

  15. Kristina says:

    What a great experience – it looks so fun! Can’t wait to hear about your next trapeze adventure!
    I think that it’s cool that you have such an open personality. I definitely do not and often wish that I could work to change that part of myself!

  16. Kayla says:

    Its hard to find the balance. I love to meet more people and hang out with more people but its hard to be able to keep up with the friends you already have and find time for everyone (and yourself).

    Trapeze looks so fun!! I always love looking at Erin’s pics of it. So glad you got to go and experience it as well!! 🙂

  17. Amy says:

    So cool that you did trapeze!!!

  18. Stina says:

    The “I already have great friends, why do I need more” logic (combined with being extremely shy) is the reason I made almost zero friends in college. It’s still some thing I struggle with because while I still have really awesome friends, I also have interests (i.e. running) that I don’t share with most of them and feel like I should have some friends that share those interests.

  19. Kiersten says:

    So jealous. I have been wanting to do a trapeze class for so long. It looks so fun!

  20. Erin says:

    You have an amazing skill to chat up and befriend anyone. I do not have that skill. So, I guess I don’t have a problem with having too many friends! 🙂

    I’m glad you had such a great time at trapeze and trying the other things. I wonder what an actual acroyoga class is like.

  21. Mica says:

    That photo of you and Erin is SO CUTE!

    I know what you mean about friends–I often feel this way about hobbies (Want all the hobbies)! I already feel bad enough that there are people I don’t make time to hang out with and see rarely, so I don’t want to make new friends and spread myself even thinner. That being said, it’s totally my fault (or at least, 50% my fault) that I don’t hang out with these people in the first place, so maybe I should just make more of an effort to be a better friend.

  22. martymankins says:

    Those are some great photos. How fun!

  23. martymankins says:

    How fun was this… Those are some great photos.

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