Just RSVP already!
When we were planning our wedding, I remember how exciting it was to get the mail and see if we’d get any RSVPs that day!
And I also remember how annoyed I was with people who thought they didn’t need to send the RSVP because “You know we’re coming, why do I need to send it in?” Um, because we are keeping track of things in a spreadsheet and I already paid for the stamp and, oh, yeah, “HOW EFFING HARD IS IT TO FILL IT OUT AND PUT IT IN THE MAIL?” Probably easier for you to send it in, than for me to remember to add however many people for food, etc., because you’re too lazy to send it (or wanted to keep it for a scrapbook, wtf?!). Grrrr.
Ha ha ha.
I thought about that while I sat on responding to an RSVP for a couple of weeks because I couldn’t decide on which song to list under “song request”!
I finally got my head out of my arse and sent it in. Geesh, I don’t want to be one of those people that drove me crazy!
(I wrote in “Quando Quando Quando” sung by Michael Buble and Nelly Furtado. That’s our wedding song, so I figured if they play it, Steven will HAVE to dance with me!!! HE’LL HAVE TO!!!!!!!!)
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Great picture of you guys!
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Not RSVPing is on a long list of things that are really not that hard to do, yet people don’t do! (also on the list: not responding to emails… at all… again, HOW HARD IS IT?!)
Amy did the song request on her RSVPs too, which I thought was a fun idea! I didn’t think to get sneaky and make Terry dance with me though. Drat.
Also add to that list: using a turn signal, returning a shopping cart in a parking lot… grrrrr.
It’s so fun! My snis did it as well. What did you put as your song?!
The turn signals! DON’T GET ME STARTED! LOL, but every time Heidi cuts one of us off on the sidewalk (without signaling!), we joke that she’s a perfect Lake County driver 😉
I think I put down Van Morrison’s “Into the Mystic,” since it’s one of my favorite songs.
Ha! Cause you never saw people NOT use their turn signals in Cook county, right?! LOL!!!
That’s a good one!!!! 🙂
Well, you never go fast enough in Cook county that it matters 🙂
Ha ha ha. It ALWAYS matters.
Ugh… the not sending in RSVPs annoys me too. Come on people, just get it done. Smart idea to list your wedding song 🙂
I don’t get it. Is it because people don’t want to commit? You usually know if you’re going to a wedding, though!
And don’t even get me started with people responding “maybe” to things on Facebook. I wish Facebook would get rid of that option!
I’ve never seen a wedding RSVP with a song request. That’s a cool idea!
Did you get any RSVP’s returned where the guests forgot to write their name? We got a couple of those. Mystery guests!
I think it’s pretty common now!
Ha! I wonder if we did. I will have to ask Steven if he remembers. Maybe we were smart enough to number them?
The RSVP is a lost art. It’s weird to think that a simple courtesy is now becoming culturally irrelevant.
What drives me nuts is the super noncommittal people who won’t give you a yes or no answer. If you’re “waiting to see if something else pans out first”, then just say no. I get that schedules are up in the air but from the planning standpoint, I don’t have the time or money to try and account/shop for a bunch of “maybe I’ll show up, maybe not!” people.
I totally agree with that. Just say no. Every once in awhile, there is a really good reason you won’t know until right before, but usually… you know. Don’t be a dick, right?!
That’s a cool idea to include a song request with the wedding RSVP! Anything you can do to make the event more personal for the guests, all the better!
I agree with all the frustration of folks that don’t respond, or the folks who are super noncommittal. Let me also add to the annoyance list the folks who RSVP one way or the other, and then change their minds at the very last minute. WTH??? Not sure what is worse!
Yes!
Ugh. Yeah. Not RSVPing then showing up?! STAB.
I don’t get the non-RSVP people. They are a major annoyance when you’re trying to plan for an event! I recently attended a wedding where they didn’t ask for RSVPs, but somehow figured out who all was coming because they had a seating chart posted at the reception. I’m not smart enough to do that w/o actual RSVPs.
Wow. How did they do that? You must find out and report back!
The groom did text me about three weeks beforehand, reminding me that the hotel block discount was going to expire, so maybe he did that for everyone? Seems like a lot of work, but probably more accurate than the standard RSVP way.
Does seem like a lot of work! But then you know right then and there.
I almost put our first dance song!! LoL!! But then I put “Hot in Herre” by Nelly. 😀
My hold-up on sending it was deciding on a song too!!
Ha! Alyssa was telling me you put that!!! 🙂 She thought it was funny!
I wonder if people felt held up on sending yours in cause of the song thing! I had to ask them to play my song at your wedding. DID YOU EVEN GIVE THEM THAT LIST?!?!??!?!!? (Whatever, I got my Fancy entrance, HA!)
Agree with others on the wonderful picture 🙂
Also – it has been nearly 25 years for us and I STILL remember finding the whole thing annoying. I had a spreadsheet (MS Office was still on floppies, installed from 25 disks!) that tabulated the food choices and numbers so I could print and fax to the reception venue (few had email at that time) … but I had to actually get people to send things in. Also of the times – no one had cell phones, and plenty of people (older aunts & uncles, etc) didn’t have answering machines. Ugh. We had more than a couple of nights where we divided up who was calling which people that hadn’t RSVP’d.
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Oh man. That does put it in perspective – at least it was easier for us to bug people and ask if they were coming or not!!!
I will admit, I recently delayed on sending in a wedding RSVP, but that’s because I knew I wasn’t going to go and I felt bad about RSVPing saying that I wasn’t coming haha. But considering that the wedding is in Texas, it’s a black tie (aka $$$$$) wedding, I haven’t talked to the bride in years, and I’ve never even met the groom, I’m hoping they’ll understand.
WHAT?! You did not send it? After reading your comment, I still don’t get WHY. LOL. Just say no! They obviously wanted to know if you were coming since they sent you an invite! 😛
Oh no no no, I DID send it. I just waited a long time to do so. Hahaha.
LOL! So, it got there way after the “due” date? 😛
I mean…they didn’t list a due date…so in my own defense I’ll say it got there before the due date haha
Ha! Did it get there before or after the actual wedding? 😛
I am horrible with RSVP’s…I fill them out but almost always send them back with just a few days to spare hoping they will get there on time. I am usually prompt and for some reason standard mail kills me!
Unless they use it as their wedding song and then you can’t dance to it. Muahahahahahaha!!!
We don’t have the same culture around RSVP here – I don’t know how people do it these days. I guess I’ll find out when one of my kids gets married – although that could be a while…
Love the picture!
As in people use them and respond right away? Or don’t use them at all?
Thanks 🙂
Most invitations have a line that says to please inform them if you CAN’T come. I think most people here let their friends and family know about the date way ahead of time – and in some families it’s a real tradition, for a wedding, to go in person to family to announce you’re getting married and invite them personally. Which means that the invitation on paper is a sort of reminder and you mostly expect people to have already saved the date. Does this make sense? Of course, it wouldn’t work in the US where everyone lives so far away from one another. But here, it does.
Wow, that is really interesting! That would take a lot of time, to invite people in person!
I’m sending invites out next week and I can’t even imagine not receiving RSVPs. All of our guests are from out of town. Oye.
Yeah… let me know how that goes 😉
To be on the other side of the RSVP…. he he. Hope that play that song for you and your dance partner.
Ugh, that was really annoy me too (Mercifully, I missed this lovely part of wedding planning)! And also, I’ve totally had that long delay because I couldn’t think of what to put on the “Song request” line of an RSVP.
I didn’t know that was your wedding song! I’m guessing Steven isn’t a dancer?
Interestingly, Steven was somewhat in to dancing in college and took ballroom dance 🙂 We took lessons for our wedding, too. He’s good at it. As you can imagine though, I am horrible at following. And he usually doesn’t dance with me at weddings or when we go out to clubs (with my fam once a year at Halloween). So yeah. You’re right. LOL. He liked ballroom, but because it was organized. He isn’t in to free style. Or people looking at him. Ever.