What is your definition of a “people person”? Do you think you are one?
I am starting to wonder if my mom was right.
When I was in my hometown for the holiday, we were having a conversation about me not wanting to go shopping and be in large crowds, and my mom started teasing me that I just might not be a people person. To be funny, I tried to build my case as to why I was…
but I have thought about it more since then, and become even more confused. Maybe I really don’t like people (just kidding!).
I love hanging out with people when I want to hang out with them. I love being social when I want to be social. I love seeing my friends and family, and yes, I love talking to new people and even strangers. I had a conversation with the lady sitting next to me on our flight to Minneapolis last week* and honestly enjoyed it. And while I greatly appreciate my me-time and quiet time, I know that I thrive off of some interaction with others on a daily basis, hence the constant emails, texts and other methods I use to bug my friends to PAY ATTENTION TO ME!!! Ha ha.
But yesterday left me for a spin. It was my first day physically back in our downtown office since before the holiday. Everyone was in. It was people overload – social stuff all day. I felt fake. I felt overwhelmed at times. I felt frustrated**. I felt anxious, thinking about all the things I wanted to get done during all of the social interactions I needed to participate in. I could talk a lot about how working from home affects the social culture of the office, and that the days we are in can be overwhelming like this, but it really isn’t appropriate, especially when working from home works so well for me (in getting work done and in a life balance sort of way) and when it is really just something I need to learn to adjust to. It’s really a Kim problem, not a work problem.
But, blah blah blah. So I had this overly social day, and then had Erin‘s fun birthday party to go to, which I had been looking forward to all week, but then found I felt drained and quiet from my day at work. Totally not like myself, and that bummed me out a bit. I had a great time, but felt more like an observer, listening to everyone’s fun conversations about their Starry Night paintings… but just not feeling “on.” Or like some of the definitions above say not “good at interacting with others,” at least in that particular moment.
So to answer my own question, I wonder if a people person is someone who is, yes, good at talking to others and makes friends easily, but maybe also someone who is almost always energized by socializing, and can handle A LOT OF IT in one day***… kind of like how we discussed extroverts finding energy from being around other people, and introverts feeling a bit drained… if THAT makes any sense. Does any of this make sense? Ha ha. I think this is the LONGEST Friday Question EVER.
*We had layovers both ways to KC
**This greatly has to do with the fact that I had work to get done but no working phone and computer issues as well.
***Even if some of it is forced, like at work.