I’ve been having this weird discussion in my head, so why not share it here, right?
Almost there! Still need to put up the Star Wars ornaments.
I really enjoy taking mental notes on my family & friend’s interests throughout the year, so that when it comes to a gift giving time, I hopefully gift them something they enjoy/that suits them.
Of course, I have been thinking about this lately as I am ordering lots of holiday gifts, and hoping that I am picking the “right” things! I’m a bit anti-junk, and hate to think I would give a gift and the person would think “I don’t need this,” or, “what am I going to do with this?!”
At the same time though… I am reminding myself that this is one gift of an entire year. And! Gifts don’t define relationships. It’s how you act throughout the year. So I am really not that hard on myself, in my hunt for the “right” thing.
So I was just going to post that sentiment.
But then I thought about it some more. And despite saying that, and believing it, and trying to nourish relationships year-round, and through more than just gifts… it is true that when someone gives you something that is SO YOU, you DO feel really good (and maybe the opposite happens when they don’t?). At least I do. I’s nice when you receive something and think “Wow! They really know me and paid attention to me. This is something I love!”
And not to say “the thought doesn’t count.” It does. It really does. I just want to be honest and say that gifts can make me feel really good and loved. And that is kind of… sad?
Gah, the commercialization of this season really makes things confusing, doesn’t it? And… I don’t see that changing any time soon. Or really even want it to. I enjoy buying gifts for people (year-round) even though I think we shouldn’t let that define a relationship (or, if you are religious, let it define this time of year).
So, yeah. Just some holiday thoughts over here. I will continue shopping online now. Ha ha.