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By kilax, January 6, 2010 5:40 am

What’s better than arriving home to a fresh cooked meal?

Nothing, really.

When I arrive home and Steven has a warm dinner on the stove, ready for me to eat, I feel like a pampered princess.

Do you like it when someone else cooks for you? Whose cooking is your favorite? Or do you prefer to make your own food?

Last night, Steven made a modified (because we were missing a few ingredients) version of Anna’s (newlywednewlyveg) Black Bean Fiesta Soup.

Here are the original ingredients, crossed out with what we substituted. Check out her site for the full recipe! I hope you don’t mind that we changed it up a bit, Anna!

• 1 onion, chopped
• 1 3 clove(s) garlic, chopped
  
• 1 tsp. olive oil
• 1 red bell pepper, chopped 1 1/2 T. Dried Red Pepper, 1 1/2 T. Dried Green Pepper
  
• 1 4. oz. can green chilies, chopped 1 1/2 Tsp Dried Jalapeño
• 1/8 tsp. cayenne pepper
• 1/2 tsp. chili powder 1/4 tsp. Ancho Chili Powder and 1/4 tsp. Chipotle Chili Powder
  
• 1 tsp. cumin
• 1/8 tsp. turmeric
• 1/2 tsp. salt
• 1/2 tsp. lime zest
• juice of one lime 1 Tsp. Lime Juice
  
• 3 2 15. oz. cans black beans, drained and rinsed
• ADDED: 1 15 oz. can pinto beans, drained and rinsed
  
• 3 cups 2 cans vegetable broth
  
• 1 15 oz. can corn
• ADDED: 1 15 oz. can diced tomatoes
  

Also, our favorite cornbread made a guest appearance. It went deliciously with this soup! I recommend trying the soup (either the original or our version). It was so tasty – perfect for a cold evening, and not too spicy!

Crap. I better be careful. I don’t want to turn into a food blogger. Stop making such tasty eats Steven! (no really, please don’t stop)

Time for another meme! Ayla (dainty vegan), Leah (why deprive), Kim (Adventures in Wanting) and Trayn Harder all gave me the Happy 101 award. Thank you! I am supposed to list 10 things that make me happy. Making this list was fun (I could have kept going past 10). I think I could do this everyday! Give it a try! Click “more” to read on.

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By kilax, December 24, 2009 6:14 am

We’ve been searching for art for our dining room for a few years, but we’ve struggled to find anything that suits our tastes. And our dining room looks so sad and plain (I apologize for the nasty photo taken with flash).

We knew we wanted three pieces, and possibly a theme that tied together, but we couldn’t find nature scenes that weren’t cheesy or graphic prints that were “us.”

A few weeks ago, I saw some simple graphic prints in the art shop across my office and fell in love. The problem? One print was about $150 each (with frame), and that was after the 50% off discount! I snapped a photo and sent it to Steven, to show him what I had in mind.

And he suggested we buy canvases and do it ourselves! Yes, I was skeptical*. BUT, we bought the canvases this weekend, and Steven painted them on Sunday! And voila! We now have art! We are counting this as our holiday gift to each other, and I couldn’t be happier to finally have something hanging in our dining room. I think they turned out great! (And guess what? Steven used our house paint to paint them! So the colors definitely tie together!)

Do you have art hanging in your home? How did you choose it? Did it take you a long time to find the “perfect” piece(s)?

*Due to my lack of artistic talent, not his.

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By kilax, December 23, 2009 5:58 am

Yesterday was Steven’s birthday, and even though I had to work, I wanted to make the evening as special as I could!

What do you do to make your loved one’s birthday special?

On my train ride into the office, I got off quite a few stops early to go to Steven’s favorite bakery (Deerfields) and pick up some of his favorite donuts for him (yes, the same donuts last year’s donut tower was made out of)! When I got off the train, the conductor said “Leaving so early?” When I told him I was going to the bakery, he said “Deerfields? I LOVE that place! I would hold the train for you if I could.” Ha. What a nice guy. I wish he could have held the train for me! Luckily, the bakery is right by the station, so I walked there (in the snow) and back and caught the next train. I made sure to pick up donuts for two of my coworkers too!

Steven picked me up after work, and we went to Red Robin for dinner. Red Robin is actually my favorite restaurant, but Steven wanted to go there since we hadn’t been for awhile. I love it because they have two different kinds of veggie burgers and BOTTOMLESS Vegan Steak Fries! Of course, the veggie burgers aren’t vegan, so I get the Red’s Rice Bowl without the fried noodles on top. I still love going there because I think it is great that they cater to so many diets. They even have a great tool online for calculating the calories in your meal.

Onion Rings

Red’s Rice Bowl (actually on a plate)

Whiskey River Boca Burger with Fries

Plus, the give you free ice cream on your birthday (after they sing you an obnoxious song of course)! You can’t beat that!

Steven opened his gifts before dinner. I gave him Pictionary, the same lego calendar I got Lauren (it’s so cool!), his favorite Christmas Tree Cakes, and a little monkey (we have an inside joke that he likes monkeys). A few days ago, I told Steven not to go in my closet because I had a small present in there for him that was not wrapped. So during dinner, I said, “Oh no! I just realized I left that unwrapped gift at home! You will have to open it later.” and acted all sad. But it was a trick (more below).

After dinner, we went bowling. Fun fact – we used to be on a league so we both have our own bowling balls and shoes.

I was a bit rusty – it’s been awhile! We bowled three games and Steven’s top score was 190 and mine was 132.

Steven had one of his donuts when we got home.

Is it salmon flavored?

The glorious inside of the donut

After he finished the donut, I gave him the “little gift” that was in my closet – which was really a HUGE gift that I could not have taken to the restaurant.

I got him the weight stand he wanted, and get this, I only paid a fraction of the price it was listed for on amazon! We have a reward program at work, and I used my points to get $80 worth of amazon gift cards to use towards his gift. Score! It felt good to get Steven something I know he really wanted AND needs!

The new weight stand (before, the weights just sat on the floor in this spot)

I hope Steven enjoyed his birthday – I know I enjoyed it!

What what your perfect birthday day be like?

I actually got mine this year– I got to spend the day on the river, relaxing, then eat vegan chocolate cupcakes and cake!

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By kilax, December 20, 2009 12:16 pm

Day 57 | December 14, 2009: Strength

I did the following routine at the office gym:

Seated Row: 15 @ 30 lb, 15 @ 45 lb, 15 @ 45 lb
Lateral Raise: 15 @ 25 lb, 15 @ 37.5 lb, 15 @ 37.5 lb
90 Degree Chest: 15 @ 20 lb, 15 @ 40 lb, 15 @ 40 lb
Shoulder Press: 15 @ 20 lb, 15 @ 20 lb, 15 @ 20 lb
Lat Pulldowns: 15 @ 45 lb, 15 @ 60 lb, 15 @ 60 lb
Pectoral Fly: 15 @ 30 lb, 15 @ 45 lb, 15 @ 45 lb
Arm Curl: 15 @ 25 lb, 15 @ 25 lb, 15 @ 25 lb
Leg Press: 15 @ 60 lb, 15 @ 60 lb, 15 @ 80 lb
Leg Extension: 15 @ 30 lb, 15 @ 45 lb, 15 @ 45 lb
Leg Curl: 15 @ 30 lb, 15 @ 40 lb, 15 @ 20 lb
Hip Abduction: 3 x 15 @ 115 lb
Hip Adduction: 3 x 15 @ 55 lb
Woodchop: 10 each side at 30 lb
Drinking Bird: 10 each leg at 15 lb
V Bar Pushdowns: 3 x15 @ 30 lb

I wasn’t sure if I wanted to do leg workouts or not, since my hamstrings and calves were a bit sore (from Level 2 of The 30 Day Shred or running in the snow?)… but I ended up doing them. They’re my favorite machines to use! Do you have a favorite strength workout?

Day 58 | December 15, 2009: 5 m run + cross

I snuck in a 30 minute bike ride during lunch. Yay. I am getting to the point where if I don’t have a lunch date or exercise planned I don’t know what to do with myself.

Cold-weather runner or ninja? YOU’LL NEVER KNOW!

Oh wait, this is a post about running.

I totally rocked my Columbia ski socks and Under Armour Hood (+ the hood on my jacket) during my evening 10°F run. My lower legs and face were super warm. Butt and thighs? Not so much. My leggings were still wet from Sunday so I couldn’t wear them (ew, I know).

Columbia ski sock and cat. I pulled my pant leg down during the run, don’t worry!

I love the Under Armour Hood. My only problem is that I can’t breathe very well through it, so I wear it like shown in the photo below. That also enables me to spit. Yeah, I spit a lot when I run. Are you a spitter?

Check out my awesome negative splits! Yay!

Distance: 5.0 | Time: 47:04 | 1: 10:08 | 2: 9:47 | 3: 9:24 | 4: 9:00 | 5: 8:41
Bike Time: 30:00 | Distance: 6.05 (Set on “Random Hills”)

Day 59 | December 16, 2009: strength

I wasn’t feeling it, but I did the following workout in the office gym:

Seated Row: 15 @ 30 lb, 15 @ 45 lb, 15 @ 45 lb
Lateral Raise: 15 @ 25 lb, 15 @ 37.5 lb, 15 @ 37.5 lb
90 Degree Chest: 15 @ 20 lb, 15 @ 40 lb, 15 @ 40 lb
Shoulder Press: 15 @ 20 lb, 15 @ 20 lb, 15 @ 20 lb
Lat Pulldowns: 15 @ 45 lb, 15 @ 60 lb, 15 @ 60 lb
Pectoral Fly: 15 @ 30 lb, 15 @ 45 lb, 15 @ 45 lb
Arm Curl: 15 @ 25 lb, 15 @ 25 lb, 15 @ 25 lb
Leg Press: 15 @ 60 lb, 15 @ 60 lb, 15 @ 80 lb
Leg Extension: 15 @ 30 lb, 15 @ 45 lb, 15 @ 45 lb
Leg Curl: 15 @ 30 lb, 15 @ 40 lb, 15 @ 20 lb
Lunges: 10 each side with 5 lb weight each hand
Crunches: 15
Bicycle Crunches: 16
V Bar Pushdowns: 3 x15 @ 30 lb

Day 60 | December 17, 2009: cross

When my alarm went off at 4:00 am Thursday I thought “gym or sleep?” Sleep always sounds better… but I got my butt out of bed and trekked to the office. I had woken up at 4:00 the day before too. I was trying to fit in early workouts since my lunch hour was occupied with holiday parties. It’s nice the gym opens early enough for me to do that, but I don’t plan on making a habit of it!

Bike Time: 1:00:00 | Distance: 11.73 (Set on “Random Hills”)

Day 61 | December 18, 2009: 5 m run

Nothing like a nice, slow 5-miler on a crisp (35°F) day with your husband! It’s too bad a lot of our neighborhood sidewalks are still covered in snow. I’d love to get my hands on some YakTrax! Ha. Until then, I will keep slipping and sliding.

Distance: 5.0 | Time: 51:33 | 1: 10:17 | 2: 10:35 | 3: 10:25 | 4: 10:24 | 5: 9:52

Day 62 | December 19, 2009: cross

I did Level 2 of The 30 Day Shred with 2 pound weights and Level 1 with 5 pound weights. Let’s just say, I am still getting used to Level 2, and my legs were shaking during the Level 1 Squat and Thrusts. That was an intense workout!

Day 63 | December 20, 2009: 7 m run

I ran 7 slow and easy miles on the mostly snow-covered sidewalks of our neighborhood while Steven worked on painting some canvases in our garage (maybe more on that later this week!).

What do you think of my 27° running outfit? Steven said I look like a “Well-Funded Hobo Runner.” HA HA!

I listened to Episode 5 and Episode 6 of Two Fit Chicks and a Microphone during my run. What fun podcasts! I am happy Jen at Perfect in our Imperfections posted about them, or I never would have found them!

I really enjoyed the part of Episode 5 about staying healthy during the holidays. I know it is a bit late to post this, but I found it helpful. They came up with the acronym E.A.T. to help stay on track.

• E is for Exercise – make sure to fit in exercise when you can, but not become compulsive and obsessed with it
• A is for Access – access the situation – don’t just eat holiday food because it is there, just indulge in the “special” treats
• T is for Take Time – take time for yourself every day, it will keep you sane

Yeah, those are obvious tips and they explained it much better, but I like them!

Distance: 7.0 | Time: 1:14:18 | 1: 10:57 | 2: 10:56 | 3: 10:52 | 4: 10:46 | 5: 10:43 | 6: 10:15 | 7: 9:43

Week Summary: 17.00 miles

I feel like I’ve been on a roll with my workouts the past two weeks – getting a lot of exercise in, making a lot of progress. I hope I can keep it up! Especially during the craziness that this week will bring…

I saw two interesting articles this week I thought I might share “10 Tips on Running in the Cold” from Runner’s World and this article that Boston Runner wrote about how she overcame shin splints. That is a topic very near and dear to my heart!

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By kilax, December 17, 2009 5:01 am

Have you ever been worried about the health of a loved one but not been sure on what you could do to help?

I know I’ve been in that situation. And people have probably been in that situation with concern for me. The problem is, I never figured out what to say/do to help.

I was reading Men’s Health* while working out on the bike on Tuesday. In the “Ask the Girl Next Door” section of “Ask Men’s Health” I saw this question:

Q: My wife eats junk food and never exercises, and I’m worried she’s going to balloon when she hits 35. How can I address this without getting my head ripped off?

Um, I would start by NOT using the world balloon. Men’s Health’s answer (remember, this answer is from a woman):

A: First, see if you can help her change her lifestyle without having a direct conversation. Ask her to take a walk with you after work. Hold her hand and ask about her day. Cook dinner more often and assume grocery duties. In fact, do more chores in general – remove a chunk of her daily obligations, and she’ll have more time and energy to spend on herself. If after a few months you still see no change, that’s when you sit her down, hold her tight, and say you’ve noticed that she hasn’t been taking great care of herself. Tell her it worries you on both a health level and, you’re embarrassed to admit, a sexual level. Say it makes you feel shallow and that you hate hurting her feelings, but that it’s something you want to address. Then ask her what’s going through her mind. And this is the most important part: Listen to her answer, and tell her, as many times as it takes, that you’ll always love her and you’re wiling and eager to help make her life easier.

Wow.

So… I thought there as definitely some good advice in there – splitting chores to allow equal free time between spouses, listening to each other’s concerns, working out together…

But damn. The sexual comment? Not being honest about your concerns from the get-go? That doesn’t fly with me. If you are going down that route, you might as well follow this AWFUL list of “10 subtle ways to tell her she’s getting fat.” Yep. It’s awful. Read it if you want to be a little bit pissed off for the rest of the day.

Would these techniques work on you? What would work? Have you ever tried to help someone out with following a healthier lifestyle?

I sometimes have food issues – binge eating and eating too fast. These issues are triggered by being rushed, feeling like things are out of my control, stress, general anxiety, and we can’t forget the last one – boredom. Steven has tried to help me. But I am so defensive about it. I think even if I came up with the perfect thing for him to say, and he said it, I would still find something wrong with the tone of his voice, or his timing. I don’t want to make it a lonely battle, because I am sure I could use support from time to time, but I am just not ready for it.

In the same sense, I don’t think I discuss exercise with him in the way he would prefer. I love to hear about other people’s workouts, so I will ask if he had time to fit one in, and if he didn’t, I think me asking makes him feel bad.

I am not mentioning these two examples because it’s a huge problem for us – it surely isn’t. We support each other by cooking healthy meals, working out together, and discussing our healthy goals. I just want to say that I think it is difficult to help someone else get healthy**, even if you have great communication. It’s so personal. You have to be really comfortable to even talk about it.

*Seems like a great mag, by the way!
**Especially since healthy can mean so many different things to different people.

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By kilax, December 16, 2009 4:17 am

There was an interesting article about bad gift-giving and how it can be straining on marriages this Tuesday in the Wall Street Journal. I found it humorous, but also, disappointingly sexist – both for men and women.

The article gives the classic examples of “bad” gifts given to wives from their husbands – vacuum cleaners, over-sized sleepwear, cooking pots, golf clubs, etc. Those stories are always good for a laugh or two.

But I felt like the whole article made men sound like thoughtless idiots who don’t listen to their wives, think twice about what they are getting them, or care if they are given a “bad” gift. It made women sound like they are overly emotional about receiving a “bad” gift, elusive about what they want, and the perfect gift givers.

Well, I always say “stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason,” but come on*. I know this isn’t true in our relationship. Since we’ve been together (7 years) I have not been able to get Steven the “perfect” holiday** gift. First it was an XBox. Then a printer. Specialty items for the Saab. A nice watch. A Garmin. So on and so forth. Run-of-the-mill things. How do we measure the worth of a gift? By the excitement of the person opening it? By how much they use it? How much they talk about it? If they thank you?

Steven has given me amazing, thoughtful gifts. Probably the most amazing was the first thing he ever gave me – a handmade box for holding my drawing pencils. He made that!

So, I am not anti gift-giving or saying I am awful at giving gifts, but… maybe it’s not all that important, in the long run. Maybe it’s not something worth getting upset about. Maybe we should just be excited when someone was thoughtful and generous enough to get us something. You can tell when it is sincere and from the heart, not matter how good or “bad” it is.

What do you think? Are these gift-giving stereotypes true?

*I would love to see this article include some examples of same-sex relationships as well. I wonder what the gift-giving stereotypes are there.
**Steven, it doesn’t help that your birthday is THREE days before Christmas!

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By kilax, December 5, 2009 7:33 am

Damn. Vegan “Chicken” and Biscuits make awesome leftovers*. Like, “I can’t stop eating them and am going to turn into a tub-tub, thank goodness that’s the last of them” awesome. Steven’s cooking is so good, I almost always feel like this with his leftovers. We were thinking about making the Vegan “Chicken” and Biscuits for Erin and Jason’s visit tonight, so we tried them out on Wednesday.

Can you spot the biscuit?

Steven followed this recipe for “Chicken” and Dumplings starting at the fourth step. We used biscuits instead of dumplings.

• Saute onion, celery and mushrooms (we added) in margarine until soft
• Add flour, celery salt and pepper to make a thick paste
• Add veggie broth and bring to a boil
• Add carrots, faux chicken and bay leaf (We used a box of Heartline’s “Chicken” Fillet** for the “chicken.”)
• Reduce heat, simmer 20 mins, stirring often
• Pour this awesome soupy mix on your biscuits
• Nom nom nom away, lick plate clean

Steven excitedly told me that the biscuits had a “surprise” ingredient (before I tried one, without the soupy mix). After a lot of guesses (some silly and some serious), Steven gave me a hint that he thought the biscuits tasted like the ones you get at Red Lobster. I immediately knew what the “secret” ingredient was then – Nutritional Yeast. After my last fiasco with it, I was worried about the biscuits, but he was right, they DO taste like the ones at Red Lobster, and they taste great! (Steven used this recipe for the biscuits. He used 1/4 c. nutritional yeast instead of 1/3 c., and for the “1 teaspoon of dried herbs” used 1/2 tsp. garlic then for the other half teaspoon he used a pinch of rosemary, thyme and dill.).

We loved this recipe – especially during this time of year. It’s such a hearty and filling dish! It makes you feel all warm and good inside. And it’s got that creamy thing going on, with a little bit of a soft chewy biscuit. Yum yum. But since we couldn’t come up with good sides (besides green beans), we are making something else for our guests tonight. Ha! At least we tried something new and it turns out we love it. We*** will definitely be making it again. We both said it reminded us of when our mothers made chicken and biscuits. And Steven suggested turning it into a pot pie…

Did you have chicken and biscuits growing up? Do you like the dish? Do you know what the difference between a biscuit and a dumpling is?! If so, please tell me!

*I took them to work on Friday.
**We order this stuff online.
***By now you must know, that by “we” I most likely mean “Steven.”

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By kilax, September 8, 2009 1:05 pm

Day One of Operation “Appear Awake at Work” is off to a rocky start.*

Can you even tell I have makeup on in this photo?!

I am probably setting myself up for failure by trying to wake up so early. Last night was one of those nights where the bed felt perfect and I instantly fell asleep. And I didn’t wake up once!** Not until this morning, when Steven was rubbing my arm (and I was thinking, “What’s he up to?!” Winky Wink.) then said, “Are you going to get up?” It was 4:05. My alarm had gone off at 4:00, and I hadn’t even realized it… yet had somehow managed to turn it off. Weird. Good thing he woke me up!

This weekend was so relaxing. I don’t recall the last time I’ve felt so relaxed. I got a full nine hours of sleep on both Friday and Saturday night, and felt refreshed and energetic all day Saturday and Sunday. It was really weird not to feel tired and crash and the middle of the day like I normally do.

It sure would be great to get that much sleep every night.

I had to wake up earlier this morning so I can make it to an evening appointment with my therapist (Yay flexible work hours!). I think it’s been a month since I last saw her. I canceled my last appointment because I didn’t feel like I had made much progress. And I didn’t feel like sitting there, complaining about the same old issues. It would just make me feel worse for, well, not having made any progress on the same old issues!***

It’s so weird to sit and talk to someone for an hour about how you feel and not have to ask them anything AT ALL. When I am talking to someone, I am naturally conscious of how much I am talking in comparison to them, if I am interrupting them, and if they look bored. Well, talking to a therapist throws all of that out the window. I can just go on and on about whatever I want, and they have to listen. Yippee!

The only problem is that I enjoy bitching to my therapist so much that I have a hard time remembering what she says. She has a lot of good feedback, ideas and analogies, but she tells me so much that I can’t remember it all. An hour is a long time! Maybe I should bring a notepad.

*I’ve decided it’s time to start putting some effort into my appearance again. I am sick of the “you look so tired” comments. I am tired, DAMMIT!
**I’ve been having issues with waking up often in the night, so this is awesome.
***I doubt some issues EVER go away.

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By kilax, September 1, 2009 5:30 am

Today is our two-year wedding anniversary! Happy anniversary Steveno!

Last week a college friend asked if I felt like my relationship with Steven was any different since we’ve been married. I think she was referring to the way we act around each other. And really, that isn’t any different. We’re still big goobers all the time.

But there were small subtle changes in how I feel. I feel more comfortable, secure and complete. Not comfortable in a “I can wear sweatpants now!” way, but comfortable in a “I have someone who’ll always love me for who I am” way. Not secure in a “I didn’t trust him before” way, but secure in a “We’ll always take care of each other, not matter what” way. Not complete in a sappy “You complete me!” way, but complete in a “I have partner in crime for life!” way.

There is something about knowing you always have someone else to count on that is really comforting and reassuring. It’s a good feeling.

Sappy sappy sappy!

• Photos of the wedding here
• Photo slideshow here
• Awesome photographer’s website here
• Special wedding song here

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By kilax, July 28, 2009 5:19 am

Steven sent me a text message yesterday with this image and said:

Data is missing an arm!

I am not sure why, but the text really made me laugh. I am still laughing about it today.

Sometimes you just need a good laugh to distract you from the things in life that are stressing you out. I get caught up in the little annoying things and forget that they are just little annoying things. Things that upset me but don’t really matter in the long run.

I am lucky to have someone in my life with such a fun sense of humor (meaning Steven, and well, Data too?).